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Revenge on the NPD
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: Anonymous ---I have a question. In your experience, if a person does not respond to the N when he is cut off, will the N ultimately try to re-establish contact?
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I would always be prepared for a communique.
--- Quote from: Anonymous ---I am now "screening" my phone calls and will not answer his calls until I am having more fun. If he complains later, I will make some simple excuse, like my phone wasn't working, I was going to bed early, or whatever. At this point, I do not care if he believes me.
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Let's say he gets angry because you don't answer his phone calls. Let him be angry. It's not your job to make sure this guy feels good. He has to learn how to handle situations in life. This is one of them. You don't have to talk to ANYONE and you aren't required to explain your reasons. There is a right to free association in this country. You fought for that right in Vietnam (Thanks for doing that).
bunny
Sally:
Guest: I can only tell you from my experience with my Narcissist, but he has never in 20+ years, ever made any attempt to make contact. It didn't matter if we parted in love or in a fight. Didn't matter whether we were married or just living together. Didn't matter even when I was seeing him in the first two years when he had no way of knowing whether I was alive or dead after the parting. It has always been nothing on his part. If I would give in and make contact he would be oh sooooo charming, so loving, and so of course there was no way I was going to then ask, why didn't you make contact and try to resolve the problem?
Of course, then on a daily basis, I would wonder would he write, call, make any attempt to reach me? And when he never would I feel worthless and unimportant. It created a terrible cycle for me. Hope that helps to answer your question. Hugs. Sally
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