I totally agree with the concept of focusing only on yourself and what you might need in therapy, in life, whatever (except of course when you have children, then they are most important too!) But what I mean is: if you get therapy, work on yourself and change the way YOU deal with issues, other people, your significant other, ANYTHING, EVERYTHING, then the dynamic automatically changes, too. Then they need to adjust how they deal with the new YOU. So, you become more knowledgable, have better boundaries, be more assertive, KNOW what you want, have outcomes, goals, be moving towards them and having action. Whoever wants to come for the ride, jump in! If not, they will be left behind. That must be the attitude of success in therapy. You are moving on, damn the damn ones who would hold you back! When you change for the better, your WORLD changes for the better. There is no down side (short-term, it's tough) but long-term, it's all good.
Dandylife