New Job Opp

[Overcomer]

Well, I have had two interviews with another company.  The first went REALLY well, the second, I don't know.  So we will see if I blew it or if they will give me another chance with a face to face interview.  It is in a retail store called Archiver's and it features all scrapbooking things...........I'm not much of a scrapbooker but if the money is right and the hours are right I would be willing to fall in love with scrapbooking.  My nmom has jerked me around by telling me she will turn the business over to me and then kind of 'forgetting" she ever said it.....I just don't trust the woman.  I emailed her and she will be appalled because I sounded very ungrateful but I said things like - it just seems ironic that I am a child of a wealthy woman but my children were the ones who never had their mother around because I was always working.  And I also said to her that I have a support group who validates me by saying things like "I don't know how you do it with your plate so full - and what with an autistic child!!"  I say, "see mom, there ARE other people who think I am doing an amazing job with life!!!!!"

So again, if it is God's will that I should get this job than I hope I do!!

[WRITE]

GOOD LUCK!
 

[teartracks]

OC,

Just keep going the way that points you forward.  I'm praying God's best for you.

tt

[debkor]

Keeping my fingers crossed.
   Good luck

Love
Deb

[Gaining Strength]

I know the job that is right for you will open to you.  I hope you will be able to let go of your mother.  Remember, send her blessings in your mind.  She has wounded you deeply but she has also missed out on the joy of being in relationship with you.  Don't let her poison you any more - send a heart of blessings in your mind.  That will cut the ties and the longings you have for HER to send blessings to you. - your friend - Gaining Strength

[Overcomer]

Yes I have to remember that.  Since that guy told me to send blessings her way things have gotten worse in MY mind.  I think I am in a battle for my mind-time to read Joyce again!

[isittoolate]

Hi OC,

I thought I had been here, to wish you good fortune. How are things????

So you momma is a rich B*tch, eh? How old is she? Are you in her Will?

I have sure had it "up to here" with Ns after I posted my last post--like daughter, like mother.

I have been trying to stay away from those memories of the past, but I have to address them to see where I stand now----the unemotional rock!

I have been talking chronologically with my Therapist, and am only now at the point to tell her (Big Surprise! that daughter and children were out here , on my invite, in 2000)  It came out in my writings about anger, and the question was, with whom was I REALLY angry??????

Oops .

Your thread

All my good wishes that you find a job that was made for you and all will be great!

Love Izzy





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[Overcomer]

Good point.  Yesterday I sent her an email and it didnt come from a victim-it came from a person with great resolve.  I basically told her I would leave my job if she didnt do what I wanted-so I felt pretty powerful-she didnt have the upper hand!

[Overcomer]

Iz:  my mom is 70 and she made a lot of money even in her 30s.  My bro says my mom owes us because we said the price for her success-she was not there for us growing up.  I assume I am in her will but may have a suprise when she dies-I would not put it past her to stick it to me!

[isittoolate]

Whew OC,

These things are tought to deal with.

I  have my daughter 'down' to receive everything and would never change it but it might all be gone if it takes me 20 years of therapy, @ $106.00/hr/wk so I am finally fit to face Daughter. 

In the long run , she could put the money to better use than she could put me ----------------at age 88.

Izzy

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[Overcomer]

wow I think you should rate the money and write your daughter a nice long letter telling her how much you love her and that it was her ex you did not like!

[axa]

Kelly,

IMO as long as you are entangled with your mother it is going to be the same old story.  I cannot see how anything will change with her and maybe this is the difficult thing for you to accept.  Each time you step into the dance she is there waiting to take up her position. I hope you get this job and create healthy distance.

axa

[Overcomer]

I know this but my mom does not.  She still labels my attempts at individuation as my instability.  So I am making strides to either get a new job or establish boundaries of my choosing to stay.  I do not even talk to her regarding these topics-only email-it is the only safe way to communicate.  I told her I would speak to her with my dad in the room and I think I may record them as well-that way she can not back peddle like she often does.  I am trying but it is not a fast process.