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WRITE

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My friend is dying
« on: May 24, 2007, 10:38:58 AM »
one of my friends was diagnosed with secondary liver cancer just a few weeks ago, last week I heard her treatments were stopped, I heard this morning she isn't expected to survive more than a few days.

At her birthday in march she was Greek dancing and shouting 'opa!' but that was sady the end of the good times for her.

I can't believe I am not going to talk to her again, I have been waiting for her call but she has been sedated and unconscious most of the time.

It all happened really fast.
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CB123

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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #1 on: May 24, 2007, 10:56:58 AM »
Write, I am so sorry.  How horrible.

I love the picture of her dancing and shouting OPA!  I'm so glad you have that memory of her in your heart.

CB
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #2 on: May 24, 2007, 10:59:50 AM »
another message came a few minutes ago, she is in a lot of pain and incommunicable, I hope her release from that comes soon.

It just doesn't give any time to say goodbye though.

Thanks CB.
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #3 on: May 24, 2007, 11:07:45 AM »
WRITE,

I can feel your sense of helplessness and frustration in your text.  I am hurting with you about your friend.  I have lost people to death as well, and they have suffered like your friend.  My thoughts and prayers will be with you this day.

~Laura
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #4 on: May 24, 2007, 11:39:56 AM »
I'm so sorry, Write.
 
I know how hard this is.

There is never a perfect goodbye and we can't go with them.

I wonder if you could, in your own space, make a small ritual of farewell and sing to her?

love
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WRITE

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« Reply #5 on: May 24, 2007, 11:52:24 AM »
Thanks Laura and Hops.

You're right I will think how I can create something to say goodbye and to remember her by.

I feel grieving, I don't think that is a bad thing though a lot of my american friends are being rather gung-ho on the 'we should remember her as she was' stuff, being a bit artificially cheerful even for me. One friend just emailed 'the best thing we can do is....' and I thought don't tell me how to feel!

I do remember how she was, but she is suffering and lost to us and I feel sad. It's okay to feel sad sometimes.
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #6 on: May 24, 2007, 12:35:08 PM »
Write,

I am so very sorry.  I had something similar happen to a friend.  All I can say is again, I am sorry. 

Love
Deb
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #7 on: May 24, 2007, 01:10:41 PM »
Write,

Thinking of you in this time of loss.  My wish is that your friend has an easy release from this life.

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« Reply #8 on: May 24, 2007, 02:34:08 PM »
WRITE,

You are very right in saying that it's ok for you to be sad sometimes.  I'm blessed to hear the you are feeling.  Sometimes in our past dysfunctional families, we learned NOT to feel.  It's good to feel even bad, painful feelings sometimes.  It's what makes us human and empathic.

May the Lord release your friend from the pain and suffering soon! 
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #9 on: May 24, 2007, 02:39:11 PM »
WRITE,

Please know that you have touched your friend's heart in many ways and that you will live on in her spirit forever!

Doodle
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #10 on: May 24, 2007, 03:28:50 PM »
I'm sorry for your friend and you as well Write.....  It is always difficult to learn of this type of thing....... I'm glad she has you as a friend,:-)

Friends are worth their weight in gold!!
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #11 on: May 24, 2007, 07:48:43 PM »
WRITE,

I am so sorry.  Please know that I am thinking of and praying for you and your friend.

Peace
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #12 on: May 24, 2007, 07:53:52 PM »
Hi Write

I am so sorry about your friend.

I am trying to think of death, for me, as a GIFT!

(......and anyone who has done me wrong, I will come back and haunt forever..............)

This is just from someone who has lived for 68 years and did it all WRONG! Boy! I hope I don't have to re-do it all!

Love
Izzy
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #13 on: May 24, 2007, 08:50:23 PM »
Talk to me about your upcoming death when you're 88, Izzz...

not

now

love

Hops
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Re: My friend is dying
« Reply #14 on: May 24, 2007, 09:31:09 PM »
Hi Hops,

I got that line from a movie, a guy on death row and this was his time--

The Life Of David Gale!

and the way he made his final speech was great!

love
Izzy
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