Quickly on limiting contact

[lighter]

At first, the thought of limiting contact with family members, besides the N, was overwhelming and sad and seemed unfair in ways I couldn't explain.

Having done some work to figure out why limiting contact would benefit me makes it less scary, easier to understand and makes me realize that I'm giving up on HOPE, once again, not something concrete and benefitial to me.  Just hope.

It makes it easier to weed out members of my FOO, if only emotionally, and make room for stronger better people to fill the space they used to take up in my life. 

[isittoolate]

Hi lighter
A message after my own heart.

I decided to dismiss my FOO from my emotional life a bit back and it lifted a big weight. Well that was for 2 sisters.

After all these past emails with my daughter, I stepped back and I put her and the grandchildren on the other side of the fence, as well, emotionally and again another weight was lifted.

My brother and other sister are coming out to see me in August and I am wondering how that 1½ days will go---I am a tag on to a horseback riding trip they are taking for 2 weeks and they will be very close to me geographically.

I see that if I NC them in my head, I do better. It lives me on my own 2000 miles away from them and I deal just with the people I have met here.

Should one of them email, I will reply but keep the emotional stuff at bay.

Love
Izzy