The narcissist speaks of others in a way that damages their image, but makes them look good by comparison. They do this through "innocent" humor, Christian concern, chipping away at your image till it is so marred, nobody thinks good of you anymore.
The only time they laugh is when they are vandalizing your image. Then they "yeah, you were really UPSET over that, weren't ya? haha."
Narcissists often preface their comments with, "I don't mean to sound cruel here, but ______."
They paint the situation to make it look good on themselves, being sure to leave any credit to you OUT of it.
The narcissist will NOT REQUEST "help" FROM YOU. Often they leave you feeling useless?
They suck all your attentions and help, but they won't take it usually if you OFFER it. In their world, they need NOTHING.
They view your wanting what they owe you as NEEDINESS in you.
Narcissists tend to keep popping back up in your life with some new reason for making contact with you. It's always you that ends up making the initial contact.
They will always claim that they were talking to you, because you NEEDED SOMEONE or they were BEING THERE FOR YOU. Then, when you need them, how DARE YOU DRAIN THEM---truth is, there is nothing in the narcissist to drain out. Their family just learns to let them be a pathetic "brat" and often a "charity case" because they are sick of trying to get "blood out of turnip."
The narcissist expects you to anticipate their needs WITHOUT HAVING TO TELL YOU WHAT THEY WANT. YOU MUST SUPPORT THEIR GRAND DELUSION THAT THEY ARE GOD, AND EVERYONE NEEDS THEM, YET THEY DO NOT NEED OTHERS.
When they fear abandonment, they will pour on the flattery and gratitude. LIke any parasite they can't survive without having a HOST.
THEY SOMETIMES DO NOT WANT YOU TO SEND THEM PRESENTS, BECAUSE THAT WOULD REQUIRE THEM TO POSSIBLY HAVE TO THANK YOU.
