el... how are you?

[elculbr]

hi all,
finding peace,
I am not ready to go to court. isn't there a statute of limitations on abuse, anyway? I don't want to go to court.
I had a revenge plan in mind though: mail copies of the police report (only evidence documenting his violence) to family friends to shatter his image. But it isn't worth it. And I'm just lazy.

Friday was a truly bad day.

[Hopalong]

Hey El,
I'm sorry Friday was so hard.
Thanks for popping in here.

I don't think you can fix everything about your childhood in a grand gesture right now,
it'd be overwhelming. You can feel your way forward one day at a time.

You're doing a great job, tackling your emotional stuff in therapy and looking forward.

You'll be dragged back and forth in your mind some, it's normal. Try not to worry, hon.
Have a peaceful Sunday....breaaaaaaattttthhe. Be kind to yourself. Very kind.

(Even if you're not sure you know how, think loving thoughts toward yourself.
Just dictate them in your head...enough practice, it becomes real.)

love
Hops

[lighter]

hi all,
finding peace,
I am not ready to go to court. isn't there a statute of limitations on abuse, anyway? I don't want to go to court.
I had a revenge plan in mind though: mail copies of the police report (only evidence documenting his violence) to family friends to shatter his image. But it isn't worth it. And I'm just lazy.

Friday was a truly bad day.

Eh.... you may put that report in the mail, yet.  You've got lots of time and emotions are will be all over the board.  That's normal. 

If a wave of anger sparks enough energy...... you may get to it. 

Sort of a walking meditation thing, lol. 

I wouldn't spend any time feeling guilt, if it happens. 

Sounds like it may go easier on your sisters..... if everybody knows what he is.   

[finding peace]

Personally, I don’t see it as lazy – I think (incredibly wise for your age) your focus is exactly where it needs to be right now – on you. 

AND YOU SO, SO, SO DESERVE THIS. 

There is always later if you change your mind.  The funny thing (or disgusting thing – depending on how you look at it) about law is that it is a moving target – if there is ever a point at which you feel ready to pursue legal action against your father, regardless of the “law,” and “statute of limitations,” a good lawyer will win (little cynicism there – but, hey, why not make the system, which is oh-so-flawed, work for you.)  If you decide you never want to pursue legal action against him - completely understandable - court would be very hard. 

What happened Friday? (If you want to talk about it.)

[finding peace]

Hi Bean  - thanks for the welcome (kindness means a great deal to me!)

Hey El - just wanted to add that I am sorry that Friday was hard.  How are you doing today?