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[redginger]

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[Hopalong]

Red. I can't find words.

Thank you.

It is a privilege to read and a heartbreak.

I wish much love and healing to all of you.
One day at a time.

I am so glad there was also laughter at the celebration.
Poor kid didn't know what we older women know...time does heal.

And she couldn't wait for it. Bless and release her, she is completely at peace.
And she's with you.

I am so very sorry. Keep posting. I'm glad you found us.

Hops

[sea storm]

dear redginger,

Thank you so much for having the courage to share your deeply moving journal with us. I have tears coming down my face as I type this.

There is a lot of compassion and non judgemental support here and if you are up to it I hope you can keep posting. Tell your story. Tell your daughters story.

Her pain was too great. I read a book called"Night Falls Fast" about depression. I was trying to make sense and to order my feelings that were threatening to overwhelm me. I mean I felt suicidal at the end of a relationship. There are moments could be overcome but when depressed the person just keeps descending. There is no way you could have stopped this.  I hope you forgive yourself.  The combination of depression, drinking and loss were fatal.


You deserve love and support through this.  God Bless YOu.

[reallyME]

Gentle hug, redginger.  Between the drug (alcohol) and the creature, Tony, a young life was cut short so unfairly and abruptly.  May the Lord heal your pain and help you to hold up another who is not as strong as you have been, who cannot find the heart to even have a memorial time for their child.  You will get through this, the hurt and pain will be there, but you will be able to keep Gianna's memory alive as you use the love you have for her, to reach others on the brink of giving up.  Instead of pulling within, reach out.  There are others who just have no idea how to grieve and live after such a tragedy


You are truly a noble woman, red.

Bless you,

~Laura

[dandylife]

Redginger,
Thank you for the privilige of reading your private thoughts. I too am crying tears of pain with you. Your life has been touched in the most cruel way by an N. Glad you are here and hope you find solace in some way.

Dandylife

[sweetgrass]

Red,
You are an incredible lady! You are so brave!! Thank you for allowing me to get into your soul. Not many people would open themselves the way you have. I am so sorry for your loss. I know you loved Gianna dearly.

I feel your pain, and I thini I feel some of Gianna's pain. It is difficult place to be when you love a person and that person will not love you back.

I really do believe you are safe here, Red. Post as much as you need to.

I care,
Sweetgrass

[finding peace]

Dear Redginger,

I am so very, very sorry.

Please know that my prayers are with Gianna, you, and your family.

Peace

[Sela]

 

Sela

[mountainspring]

Hi Redginger...   I'm very sorry for your loss and will keep you and your family in my prayers.

[redginger]

Gentle hug, redginger. 
You are truly a noble woman, red.
Bless you,

~Laura

Thank you so much for the encouraging words, Laura.

[teartracks]

Dear Redginger,

I am speechless,  I am sad, I grieve with you. 

I don't want to make this about me, but I would feel that I neglected you if I didn't say the following.  I lost two sons to sudden death in a small private plane off the coast of FL.  I neglected myself trying to be strong for everyone else, the six fatherless children, the grieving widows, my beautiful daughter and her father.  None of us had ever gone through anything like this, so we didn't know how to counsel each other.  The loving community around us, wanted to give us our space and time to heal.  I now have PTSD (It was seventeen years ago).  Please get with people you trust who will allow you to say and be and do what you must as you grieve.  I believe that If I'd known to get help with the terrible grief, I could have avoided the PTSD and chronic insomnia with sleep intertia.  Please don't allow time to pass and pass and pass.  Many of the long term affects of tragedy can be headed off, but it needs to start very early.   Gianni would want you to take care of you.  I believe that with all my heart.  Sorry for the lecture at a time when your heart is broken into bits.  I'm with you in spirit, my dear. 

tt

[debkor]

tt,

I am very sorry. My heart goes out to you both and your loss. 

Deb

[redginger]

Dear Redginger,

I am speechless,  I am sad, I grieve with you. 

I don't want to make this about me, but I would feel that I neglected you if I didn't say the following.  I lost two sons to sudden death in a small private plane off the coast of FL.  I neglected myself trying to be strong for everyone else, the six fatherless children, the grieving widows, my beautiful daughter and her father.  None of us had ever gone through anything like this, so we didn't know how to counsel each other.  The loving community around us, wanted to give us our space and time to heal.  I now have PTSD (It was seventeen years ago).  Please get with people you trust who will allow you to say and be and do what you must as you grieve.  I believe that If I'd known to get help with the terrible grief, I could have avoided the PTSD and chronic insomnia with sleep intertia.  Please don't allow time to pass and pass and pass.  Many of the long term affects of tragedy can be headed off, but it needs to start very early.   Gianni would want you to take care of you.  I believe that with all my heart.  Sorry for the lecture at a time when your heart is broken into bits.  I'm with you in spirit, my dear. 

tt

teartracks, thank you for sharing....I am so very sorry for the loss of your sons, and I feel your pain and where your coming from. And your poor grandkids and family, so tragic. I'm also so sorry you're going through PTSD. I've heard it can happen years and years later, you're living proof that it does.  I don't feel your reply was a lecture at all.