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Hubby's N Mother Resurfaces (father too)

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Lizbeth:
I agree, Tokyojim.  They are a waste of time.  We are taking a much deserved vacation (just finished tax season yesterday) from April 27-May 8.  Four days in Ft. Lauderdale then a cruise to the Western Caribbean.  I won't waste a second of my time thinking about anything other than how lucky I now am.   Hubby and I spent the past 2 years taking care of my sister after my brother in law develped lung cancer and died May 2 of last year.  She is going on the cruise with us and we will throw flowers overboard in Joe's memory on May 2 this year at 5 PM.


Lizbeth

mrt:
Watch out for that sister-in-law. She might not be mis-guided. She may be jealous of your success or be unaware that she is dealing with N parents and is being manipulated by them.
My sister will defend my N parents no matter how bad they behave. Many years ago we made the mistake of going into business with her with the promise that my parents would help us all with the business. My parents never really helped and then with out warning my sister suddenly walked out on us leaving us high and dry. We had to file bankruptcy. I was furious but I chalked it up to her immaturity and eventually forgave them and continued to let them abuse me again and again without realizing it.

 Just recently she was manipulated by my parents to hurt me financially again. That was the last straw. They will never be trustworthy again. I finally learned who they were and all about N and Self-obsessed people. Boy were my eyes opened. I now trying to deal with the anger that I wasted so many yearstrying to get along with them and not realizing it was all one-sided in their favor. Stupid stupid stupid

Give your sister-in-law another chance? Perhaps, but be watchful of what you tell her - she might not have your husband's best interest at heart like you obviously do.  I commend you for helping your husband with his N parents.

Lizbeth:
Thank you, Mrtraced, that is good advise.  I still find myself thinking the best of people until I am proved otherwise, but I know that is not a good idea when you are dealing with disfunctional family members.  Fortunately, sister-in-law lives in Maryland with her new husband and baby and has no way to interfere in our lives other than giving out hubby's cell phone number.   She has enougn on her plate because her new hubby is a bozo.  The inability to make good choices in life because of a disfunctional childhood is passed on and on through the generations, it's such a shame.

On a brighter note, we have still not heard a peep from N mother-in-law!

Lizbeth

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