WHEN ?

[mountainspring]

Also, I am through with allowing thoughts of Ns control my life,

Sometimes I'm reading here and things just pop out at me.   This is one.  Good goal, excellent goal....  I need so much work on this.  Going to post it on my frig.   

Thanks Izzy!

[motheroffour]

Amen.  Izzy! and MS!  I think those N's sought to control us.  And many times they succeeded.  But I know that I don't have to be controlled.  There are no bars on me.  No one forcing me to believe.  Just me choosing to buy into it.  I am with Izzy.  No more letting them control my life.  No more being miopically focused on what they did and how it hurt.  Just me moving forward and breathing free.

--mof4

[sally]

Hi Mof 4,

Just me choosing to buy into it.

I agree.  But, there was a time for me when I was UNAWARE that I CHOSE to buy into it.  Before I found out about narcissism, I didn't KNOW I HAD a CHOICE.

Now that I know about narcissism, I know that I DO have a choice.

Love,
sally

[motheroffour]

Hey Sally !

I think I knew I had a choice but I am sure I didn't know what thing to choose.  Still don't most days.  the confusion!  I hate it.  I am a lover of clarity.  Some days I find it so elusive. 

Feels free to stop and at least say that we do have choices and then wait for the way to reveal itself.  I have spent so long running in circles while the N bites my fanny!

--mof4

[sally]

Dear MOF,

your poor fanny!!!!!!!!

I think it's OK to be confused.  We are not perfect and we make mistakes and it's OK.  Maybe just give yourself a little time to evaluate the choices and then it may be easier to choose.

I love clarity too, but, unfortunately, I think life is often misty and murky and I accept that.  Then again, the challenge (and maybe the "fun") can lie in the elusiveness. 

I try to embrace the following:  the only perfect and clear thing is God.  We are humans, not God.  For us, life is often a fuzzy, misty, elusive mystery and God gives us a free will to make choices.  Sometimes we make the wrong choice, but it's OK because we are imperfect humans, we are not God.

Love,
Sally

Love,
sally