Dear Beth,
What a wonderful topic! Thankyou.
I agree with all of you: In many ways, NPs were (are) ignorant and they made bad choices when raising us.
Izzy: I agree our NPs didn't know what to say/do, but, perhaps there was a degree of deliberateness in their ignorance, unless they were just so unaware that their ignorance canceled out the deliberateness. Hey! wrap your mind around that one!!
Pennyplant:
I knew on some level, at all times, that I was just a burden. Me too.
It is good to know now that me not mattering had nothing to do with me, though. It was their lacks and flaws. Amen!
(((((((((((((((((Pennyplant)))))))))))))))) So sorry to hear about mom favoring sister. It's disgusting.
It's different for everybody, Beth Agreed. Each family is different, so we each have different wounds, but we all hurt.
I don't know what kind of person I'm becoming to not want that--you know what I mean? Pennyplant, I think this is very healthy. If you know there;s nothing to drink, why torture yourself by being thirsty? You are your own separate person with your own separate life. You are out of the FOO, so you do not need the Foo to sustain you. Good for you!!
Penny, I hope one day I can be like you and kind of stop caring, wondering, stop trying to fathom and figure out my NPs.
Beth, please keep discussing this book. It's very powerful. I almost said "I hope you 'enjoy' the book", but we can't enjoy these types of books: they're devastating,painful and draining.
Love,
sally