The Four Agreements

[rosencrantz]

Quote :

Everything we do is based on agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with others, with God, with life.

But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves.  In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible.  One single agreement is not a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.

The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new freedom, true happiness, and love.

1.  BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


2.  DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.


3.  DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


4.  ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements

[Rojo]

Hi, R

Thanks so much for sharing this.  Boy, Miguel Ruiz wasn't kidding when he said...."One single agreement is not a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth."  I hear that one like a foghorn.  It's SO true!

You know, not long after I finished reading your post, a buddy of mine emailed me this:

We shall not cease for exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. ~T.S. Eliott.

I've been blessed with two excellent gifts of wisdom today.

Hope all is well with you.  God bless,

Rojo

[Portia]

Wonderful uplifting words Rosencrantz – thank you.
And Rojo, good to see you back. I think of you as one of my original ‘welcomers’ – and they are special people. Hope you don’t mind me saying that, I know it’s sentimental, but hey! Hello again. P

[Rojo]

Hi Portia,

It's good to be back! How could I possibly mind being welcomed back in such a sweet way?  LOL.  You've made me feel like a million bucks  

God bless,

Rojo

[Anonymous]

Quote :

Everything we do is based on agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with others, with God, with life.

But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves.  In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible.  One single agreement is not a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.

The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new freedom, true happiness, and love.

1.  BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


2.  DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.


3.  DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


4.  ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Miguel Ruiz - The Four Agreements

Wanted to bring it to the top.

They're all excellent, especially number 3.
It's a SUPER-TRUTH.

CG

[Gingerpeach]

That was wonderful Rosencrantz.  I have seen it before, but these kind of universal truths need to be revisited until we "get it," yes ??

Portia, you are so right !!  And I am picturing my N as a cartoon machine , the "face" all scrunched up, turning redder and redder with steam puffing  out of him and the digtal readout going "DOES NOT COMPUTE, DOES NOT COMPUTE, DOES NOT COMPUTE........"  So funny.....so sad.....

And CG, yes, #3 I am learning is so very important.  I am in the beginnings of a relationship with probably, the first non-N of my life.  We both really try to pay attention to the manner in which we communicate.  

It's hard in the beginning.  It's like learning to talk all over again.  But, it becomes easier with practice.  I am amazed at the difference in how I feel.  Of course, it does help that he is a non-N and doesn't respond by twisting my words and escalating the drama !!!

Good one R !!