Hi all and especially Hops,
Would like to start a thread on this topic since I have, at last, started reading the book. I have dipped in and out of it at times but picked it up yesterday and would like to engage with others about it.
"We feel we deserve resolution" - what a biggie for me. I always want an ending, a tie up, neatly closed......... forget it.
"always thinking that there is a problem and that someone, shomewhere, needs to fix it"
I feel many of us brought up by Ns are so caught up in this. I know I am. I think taking the road of the middle ground, not trying to fix, letting it be, is so difficult and it brings up for me a deep anxiety, boredom, restless that I want to get away from. Years and years of running away from myself and into the arms of Ns, learning so little on route, but not nothing, I did learn some things. I wish for the courage to stay with the restlessness and boredom.
"We want victory or defeat, praise or blame" Oh do I know these poles. Always the extreme, my wish is to meet the middle ground and know myself there.
Just wanted to share these thoughts and would welcome comments........... writing this post has brought up real sadness for me which I will try and stay with.
Axa