I ditto Iphi
Especially I am not here to help them beat on me.
and Izzy...
Why give her an opening to do more damage?
I think silent retreat is the most powerful and self-protective thing you can do.
And open the will can o' worms as you will. It backfired on me in that it gave her
the opportunity to manipulate, tease and torment me about it for several years.
(She knew I had huge anxiety about being able to afford to stay in this town,
because I'd been laid off
x4 and had huge job instability after I moved here),
although after
a confrontation in which I asked not to "get" the house, but to have my
mother just TELL me how it would be settled (so I could make some security
plans for either contingency)...anyway, after all that, she did decide I could inherit it
and my brother could inherit the contents. She even said one night, while I was on the floor
cutting her toenails or something with my back killing me..."now I realize it
truly is fair to leave you the house." But it was years in resolving, and a high cost.
Anyway, for all those reasons...I fear your engineering a negative encounter,
which is imo how she would interpret your message.
Then again, you'd be stuck screening calls, etc... I don't know what's right for you.
I hope this helps, just as grist for the mill...
hugs
Hops