Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Life is so precious.

I'm really sorry, Bones...that is tragic.

It sounds as though he didn't suffer (no time).
I hope it's true.

hugs and comfort,
Hops

I can only hope he didn't see what was coming before that idiot hit him.

Bones

[Ami]

Yes, I hope so (((Bones))). It is hard to find a compassionate doctor, IME.                   xxxooo  Ami

[BonesMS]

Yes, I hope so (((Bones))). It is hard to find a compassionate doctor, IME.                   xxxooo  Ami

Exactly!

Nowadays, I feel as if I'm on an assembly line conveyor belt, instead of being a HUMAN patient, in a doctor's office!  It often feels dehumanizing!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Life is so precious.

I'm really sorry, Bones...that is tragic.

It sounds as though he didn't suffer (no time).
I hope it's true.

hugs and comfort,
Hops

I'm also hoping that this incident FINALLY get the bureaucrats OFF THEIR A$$E$ and DO SOMETHING ABOUT THAT DANGER!

Bones

[BonesMS]

I REALLY lost it last night!!!!  

I'm part of a writers group and the head of our group called for all of us to meet at a nearby restaurant at 3:00 PM to discuss the progress of our work.  I was one of a group of four women who showed up at the appointed time of 3:00 PM.

The person, who gave me a ride, and I were REALLY hungry upon arrival as neither one of us really had any breakfast.  (That's another story.)  The other two women wanted to wait until the head of our group arrived before ordering ANYTHING to eat.  I stated that given that my ride and I are both dealing with chronic health issues, we NEED to get something to eat NOW and went ahead and ordered!  The other two sat and watched us eat without saying much.  

In the meantime, the four of us waited....and waited....and waited....and waited for the head of our group.  No phone call, no show, no NOTHING!!!!!  After about a couple of hours of this waiting, we called his job, thinking he had been called in to work at the last minute.  The person, who answered the phone, stated that he had the day off.  We tried calling his home...no answer EXCEPT voice mail!  (BTW, this individual REFUSES to have a cell phone!)  

So the four of us continue to sit in the restaurant, NOT knowing WHERE he is, NOT knowing WHERE to reach him, NOT knowing if he's been attacked, been in an accident, in a hospital somewhere...comatose...and getting more and more UPSET and ANGRY!!!!!  (This is NOT the first time he has done this!)  Finally, the other two ladies went ahead and ordered something to eat as they were TIRED of waiting for this guy to show up!

FINALLY, at 6:00 PM, THREE HOURS LATER, he strolls in nonchalantly!!!!!    Needless to say, the four of us LIT INTO HIM!!!  He couldn't understand why there was a problem.    He also saw no need to apologize and REFUSED TO DO SO!!!!
Then he made the mistake of sitting down, to my right, and made a couple of sexist, chauvanistic remarks, some specifically aimed at me, and that's when I HAULED OFF AND CLOCKED HIM!!!!!!  

MEN CAN BE SO STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

There's also trouble brewing with the head of our main club who has begun making UNILATERAL decisions and is DEMANDING we go along with his decisions WITHOUT QUESTION!!!!     NOT ME!!!!    

Bones

[BonesMS]

I'm getting to practice my new skills on a suspected Narcissist!

The four of us ladies told him EXACTLY how we felt about what he did and the way he treated us this past weekend.

He attempted to flip it back on us, with the "blame game".  (Sound familiar?)

I tossed it back to him, emphasizing ACCOUNTABILITY and RESPONSIBILITY on his part .

He attempted the "divide and conquer" technique, via e-mail, trying to "single" me out.  (Does this also sound familiar?)

I tossed it back to him with a "cc:" to the three other ladies which included his "message" to me and, again, emphasized ACCOUNTABILITY and RESPONSIBILITY.

It's getting interesting!

It appears that stating the concepts of ACCOUNTABILITY and RESPONSIBILITY to a Narcissist is the equivalent of waving a red cape in front of a bull!

Bones

[CB123]

Bones,

Why did you all wait for him for three hours?  Fifteen minutes is courteous and 30 minutes is generous.  To lose a whole afternoon to waiting for someone! Times four!

The best way to protect your time boundaries is to be non-negotiable with them.  If someone doesnt show up, you leave.  Then they look for YOU.

CB

[BonesMS]

Bones,

Why did you all wait for him for three hours?  Fifteen minutes is courteous and 30 minutes is generous.  To lose a whole afternoon to waiting for someone! Times four!

The best way to protect your time boundaries is to be non-negotiable with them.  If someone doesnt show up, you leave.  Then they look for YOU.

CB

In this case, we also had a separate club meeting, with other members scheduled to arrive at the same restaurant at 5:00 PM. We are all members of this club.  So it didn't make sense for us to leave that restaurant only to return, in an hour or less, to the EXACT SAME restaurant for our general club meeting with other members.  (BTW, another male member of the general club, Mr. "Doe", also BLASTED this inconsiderate person for his disrespectful attitude toward the female members of the club, one of which included the wife of the one who was defending us, Mrs. "Doe".  It got pretty TENSE!)

Bones

[BonesMS]

And the Inconsiderate One can't understand why we don't simply just "read his mind" all the time!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

 

Bones

[Ami]

You Rock (((Bonesie)))))                                    xxo  Ami

[BonesMS]

You Rock (((Bonesie)))))                                    xxo  Ami

Thanks, (((((((((((((((((((((Ami)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Bones

[BonesMS]

Today is Thanksgiving Day and I woke up in a VERY BAD MOOD!!!! 

Then I picked up a catalog that I received in the mail yesterday and found several items that are LAUGH OUT LOUD FUNNY!!!!!  It made me wonder if they were designed by a Survivor of a Narcissist!

Among the items that had me chuckling:

Nightshirts that say: 
"O Come Let Us Adore Me" and
"The Queen"

T-shirts that say: 

"Just Be Happy I'm Not A Twin";
"I Used To Care But I Take A Pill For That Now";
"My Indian Name is Yes Dear";
"I Live At The Corner of Kiss My A$$ Avenue And No Friggin Way"
"Let Me Drop Everything And Work On Your Problem"
"It Is What It Is"
"When I Want Your Opinion, I'll Remove The Duct Tape"
"Don't Worry About What Other People Think, They Don't Do It Very Often"
"National Sarcasm Society: Like We Need Your Support"
"Sarcasm:  Just One More Service I Provide"
"I'll Have A Cafe Mocha Vodka-Valium Latte To Go, Please"
"It's All About Me"
"I'm Surrounded By Nuts" (with M & M cartoon characters)
"Where's The Switch That Turns You Off?"
"Be Careful!  Or You Will End Up In My Novel!"
"If You Met My Family, You Will Understand"
"Mom Likes Me Best"
"I May Be Left-Handed But I'm Always Right"
"Whatever!"

A T-Shirt and Sweatshirt that says:  "3 Wise Men?  Be Serious"

For fans of "24":  "If You Woke Up This Morning, It's Because Jack Bauer Spared Your Life"

For fans of the Wizard of Oz:  a coffee cup that appears to be based on the musical "Wicked" with the phrase:  "Don't Make Me Call The Flying Monkeys"





My personal favorite T-Shirt that shows a picture of a duck, with it's bill duct-taped, and the caption:  "Shut The Duck Up!"





A metal cutout sign that says:  "My Barn, My Rules"

A doormat that says:  "Well Butter My Butt & Call Me A Biscuit: Look Who's Here"

A plaque that says:  "Deja Moo:  The Feeling You've Heard This Bull Before"

A coffee cup that says:  "She Who Must Be Obeyed"

I Think Red Headed Erin will like this T-Shirt:  "Redheads are Hot"

I also like this concept, a mazuzah for a baby's room that says:  "Bless This Room And The Child Who Dwells Here...growing and playing and sleeping and dreaming"

I like a lot of what I found in the catalog.  It definitely lightened the mood!

Bones

[Ami]

(((((Bones))))))      Bless you, Sweetie!                        xxxoo    Ami