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sKePTiKal

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1815 on: October 06, 2010, 07:39:18 AM »
Hmmm... a cold sounds like the perfect excuse to take it easy, tea, good movie/book, or my fav - a piece of needlework - and chicken soup. Maybe even adding an extra day to the "weekend" so it gets here sooner!

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« Reply #1816 on: October 06, 2010, 09:48:48 AM »
I understand.  At the same time, this is the worst week for a cold to choose to visit!  I have to go to the nearby shopping mall to pick up some last minute things, then I have a meeting tonight with the Reunion Committee and the venue where the party will take place and I have materials I have to bring that they need TONIGHT!  Tomorrow is the Depression Screening, (for which I will earn a little money to go toward my medical bills), Friday is a small party for those former classmates who cannot come on Saturday and Saturday night is the BIG party!  Now is NOT the time to get sicker!   :P

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« Reply #1817 on: October 07, 2010, 07:22:37 AM »
It's getting down to the wire for the Reunion activities and it feels like herding cats!   :?

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« Reply #1818 on: October 07, 2010, 08:37:07 AM »
Oh, I know how you feel! It's so hard trying to get something like this - and all the different people - to come together. I think I usually end up throwing up my hands and adopting the "what will be, will be... and it'll probably be OK" attitude. Come to think of it, right now... I don't remember any major catastrophes!

Hope you have fun, Bones and that your cold lets you!
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« Reply #1819 on: October 07, 2010, 09:54:35 AM »
Oh, I know how you feel! It's so hard trying to get something like this - and all the different people - to come together. I think I usually end up throwing up my hands and adopting the "what will be, will be... and it'll probably be OK" attitude. Come to think of it, right now... I don't remember any major catastrophes!

Hope you have fun, Bones and that your cold lets you!

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« Reply #1820 on: October 07, 2010, 10:20:37 AM »
I admire you, Bones...

All the active things you do despite the burdens and struggles that come and go.

I really admire you for getting out there and doing life the way you do regardless.

Thanks for the inspiration.

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« Reply #1821 on: October 07, 2010, 10:38:45 AM »
I admire you, Bones...

All the active things you do despite the burdens and struggles that come and go.

I really admire you for getting out there and doing life the way you do regardless.

Thanks for the inspiration.

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Thanks, Hops!

Maybe it's my way of trying to be the opposite of what NWomb-Donor used to do.

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« Reply #1822 on: October 07, 2010, 11:37:38 AM »
BTW, if you're ever visiting Washington, D.C., please be sure to check out this exhibit:

http://www.mnh.si.edu/exhibits/hreef/index.html

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« Reply #1823 on: October 08, 2010, 07:29:34 AM »
The last letter in today's Dear Abby is a LULU!!!!

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« Reply #1824 on: October 09, 2010, 08:46:40 AM »
Didn't get home until after 1:00 AM from the first high school reunion party and I started sniffling and sneezing more last night during the party.  Feeling a bit run-down this morning and I have another reunion party tonight!
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« Reply #1825 on: October 10, 2010, 07:43:34 AM »
Rest as much as you can and let other people pick up and do whatever else needs to be done! You've earned it.
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« Reply #1826 on: October 10, 2010, 04:53:01 PM »
How'd your reunion go Bones?

Hope you're feeling better   :)

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« Reply #1827 on: October 10, 2010, 06:25:56 PM »
Rest as much as you can and let other people pick up and do whatever else needs to be done! You've earned it.

Thanks, P.R.

Unfortunately, the one other person on the committee, who wants to be able to assist more, is more ill than I am with an autoimmune disorder.  The remaining members, three guys were basically useless.  Two didn't get back to me and the other lady while we were working on making the arrangements and the third is back to being an actively practicing, out-of-control, Narcissistic alcoholic who did nothing but drink and attempt to bark orders at me and the other lady.  I told him to back off!  Damn!  I have no patience with obnoxious drunks!   :P

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« Reply #1828 on: October 10, 2010, 06:35:23 PM »
How'd your reunion go Bones?

Hope you're feeling better   :)

We managed to pull it off in spite of the men being useless!

I did have a VERY awkward moment when I encountered my ex-lover.  (He was the one who dumped me.)  I'm sitting at the equipment table, being the DJ, and he came over to me to say 'hello'.  He shook my hand and it felt like I was shaking hands with a dead fish!  UGH!!!!   :P  Then he kept circling my area, glancing at me, when there was PLENTY of other places he could wander to!  It felt like he was being a vulture, circling....circling....then he would dart in towards me, say something, then dart away and resume circling....circling...circling around me!  (WTF?!?!?!?)

I also came to understand the phrase:  "He was undressing me with his eyes".  When he approached me again, I could see the lust in his face!!!  Talk about MIXED messages!!!!  The whole time, I'm reminding myself:  "He hurt me!  I DON'T trust him!!!  Shields up!!!!  Red Alert!"  (I was also VERY mindful of his wedding band on the third finger of his left hand and was VERY aware that he left his wife at home!)  He already had his chance, twenty years ago, and he BLEW IT!!!!  GEEZ!!!!!

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« Reply #1829 on: October 11, 2010, 08:52:43 AM »
Oh my, Bones...

I know those encounters pretty well. It certainly makes me wonder what the H--- I was thinking when I got involved!!!! But see?
You've come a long way, baby.... you've learned a lot... and have no time to waste on such a sleazy dweeb.

I hope you had fun in spite of him.
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