Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[sKePTiKal]

Well, Bones - without a specific context it's hard to know, from where I sit.

As long as - once they announce their "decision" about what to do, they present it to the whole committee for discussion and decision... that might just give the "spinning wheels" some traction; might be a good thing.

On the other hand, if it's being announced as a "done deal" with no other input allowed... well, then it's either what's generally called "leadership" -- or a "power grab". Committees don't have to accept either one of these, if they can outvote the two who are speaking up.

(see: US Congress) -- LOL!!!

[BonesMS]

Well, Bones - without a specific context it's hard to know, from where I sit.

As long as - once they announce their "decision" about what to do, they present it to the whole committee for discussion and decision... that might just give the "spinning wheels" some traction; might be a good thing.

On the other hand, if it's being announced as a "done deal" with no other input allowed... well, then it's either what's generally called "leadership" -- or a "power grab". Committees don't have to accept either one of these, if they can outvote the two who are speaking up.

(see: US Congress) -- LOL!!!

Thanks, P.R.

What is irritating is the announcement of a "done deal".  Case in point:  the committee was planning on a "Game Night" and I was suggesting various games that I have to bring as well as being on the look out for games to add.  At the last minute, the chair of the committee sends an e-mail announcing that after conferring with ONE OTHER committee member, (and no one else), it was decided to CANCEL the game night!  (Both the chair and this one-other member are also on the HOA board.)  I felt like I had done all of that effort for NOTHING!  (The committee has at least five to six people and the others said nothing.)  Yesterday, I sent a provocative e-mail to all the members of the committee asking if they really want to plan a holiday party or do they really care?  (Yes, I went there after trying to discuss this rationally since August and my patience ran out.)

[BonesMS]

Computer was acting up this morning......

On top of that, the car is acting up too.....

[BonesMS]

Also woke up with a bad dream this morning, which started the day wrong.

[BonesMS]

Not in a good place this morning.

The car is acting up and I'm concerned that the repair bill is going to be over a $1,000 or the mechanic won't be interested in working on an old car.  (I'm no longer in a position to consider a replacement due to finances, aging, and health.)

Spotted the following in today's Dear Abby:

DEAR ABBY: My husband brought me roses the day our divorce was final. We had been married almost 30 years. When I asked him why, he said, "Aren't you happy? Isn't this what you wanted?" He was the one who initiated the divorce. What kind of man would do this? -- STUMPED IN FLORIDA

DEAR STUMPED: Someone who is angry or sadistic, or one who got his wires seriously crossed.


The ex-husband sounds like a Narcissistic Gaslighter to me.

[BonesMS]

Turns out the battery is dying, the alternator is going, the belt is bad and the front axle is also going.  UGH!

[BonesMS]

Tried to sit for a while, in the nearby Micky D's while the car was being worked on but the noise level reached the point of sensory overload and I couldn't take sitting there anymore.  When I first went in, I spotted a couple of rug-rats making a LOT of noise so I made it a point to sit as far away from the noise as possible so I could eat in relative peace.  Next thing I knew, the rug-rats came over to where I was sitting and proceeded to bang on the back of my seat while vocalizing "Bang! Pow!", etc.  Where were the parental units?  I haven't a clue.  Turning around and giving them the evil eye didn't do a thing.  By that point, my nerves were done.

[Hopalong]

Oh Bones. Sounds like a horrid day.

I'm really sorry about your car. I know that aging-vehicle fear. I downscaled my car so much my "replacement" will be a skateboard.

I wonder if carrying those little foam earplugs would come in handy for those times when noise is just One Stressor Too Many?

Hops

[BonesMS]

Oh Bones. Sounds like a horrid day.

I'm really sorry about your car. I know that aging-vehicle fear. I downscaled my car so much my "replacement" will be a skateboard.

I wonder if carrying those little foam earplugs would come in handy for those times when noise is just One Stressor Too Many?

Hops

Thanks, Hops.

I've tried the earplugs before but they didn't help much.  They wouldn't have done much good given that I could feel the rug-rats banging on the back of my seat.   

[BonesMS]

Just checking in this morning......

[BonesMS]

Just checking in.............

[BonesMS]

The first letter brings up some rough memories:


http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20111208

[BonesMS]

Well, Bones - without a specific context it's hard to know, from where I sit.

As long as - once they announce their "decision" about what to do, they present it to the whole committee for discussion and decision... that might just give the "spinning wheels" some traction; might be a good thing.

On the other hand, if it's being announced as a "done deal" with no other input allowed... well, then it's either what's generally called "leadership" -- or a "power grab". Committees don't have to accept either one of these, if they can outvote the two who are speaking up.

(see: US Congress) -- LOL!!!

Thanks, P.R.

What is irritating is the announcement of a "done deal".  Case in point:  the committee was planning on a "Game Night" and I was suggesting various games that I have to bring as well as being on the look out for games to add.  At the last minute, the chair of the committee sends an e-mail announcing that after conferring with ONE OTHER committee member, (and no one else), it was decided to CANCEL the game night!  (Both the chair and this one-other member are also on the HOA board.)  I felt like I had done all of that effort for NOTHING!  (The committee has at least five to six people and the others said nothing.)  Yesterday, I sent a provocative e-mail to all the members of the committee asking if they really want to plan a holiday party or do they really care?  (Yes, I went there after trying to discuss this rationally since August and my patience ran out.)

Update:

Holiday party has been cancelled due to lack of interest from others.   

I'm PISSED as I was looking forward to something, ANYTHING, pleasant during this time of year to take my mind off of not having anyone around to festivate with.  (I'm sick of the commercials that promote FAMILY, FAMILY, FAMILY!) 

[Guest]

Ignore the 'family' conspiracy Bones! It doesn't exist.

My simple plan at the moment is to have a treat on standby - possibly hot chocolate with a shot of brandy, topped with sweet cream out of a can. I'm looking forward to it.

[BonesMS]

Ignore the 'family' conspiracy Bones! It doesn't exist.

My simple plan at the moment is to have a treat on standby - possibly hot chocolate with a shot of brandy, topped with sweet cream out of a can. I'm looking forward to it.

I understand FW.

For me, however, booze is not a solution.

On top of it all, I just learned from my next door neighbor that his kitty, that I LOVE to cuddle and baby, had to be put to sleep because his kidneys completely failed.  NOT happy!