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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

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Certain Hope:

--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 19, 2008, 10:17:04 AM ---
Thanks, Carolyn.

I'm scheduled to work every night this week through Thursday and then will be attending training Friday and Saturday.

Bones

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Does this training lead to promise of advancement and a pay raise, Bones?  :D   Either way, I hope it's something you enjoy and from which you'll gain some benefits. Will be thinkin of you!

With love,
Carolyn

BonesMS:

--- Quote from: Certain Hope on February 19, 2008, 10:31:09 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 19, 2008, 10:17:04 AM ---
Thanks, Carolyn.

I'm scheduled to work every night this week through Thursday and then will be attending training Friday and Saturday.

Bones

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Does this training lead to promise of advancement and a pay raise, Bones?  :D   Either way, I hope it's something you enjoy and from which you'll gain some benefits. Will be thinkin of you!

With love,
Carolyn

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I can only hope.  I'm trying the best I can.

Bones

Certain Hope:

--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 21, 2008, 12:42:40 PM ---
I can only hope.  I'm trying the best I can.

Bones

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I know you are doing your best ... trying so very hard. It shows...  I can feel it.
I'm believing that you'll reap the harvest, dear Bones.

Love,
Carolyn

BonesMS:

--- Quote from: Certain Hope on February 21, 2008, 05:11:03 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 21, 2008, 12:42:40 PM ---
I can only hope.  I'm trying the best I can.

Bones

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I know you are doing your best ... trying so very hard. It shows...  I can feel it.
I'm believing that you'll reap the harvest, dear Bones.

Love,
Carolyn

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Thanks, Carolyn.

I recently got ANOTHER e-mail from NDoofus and I have not responded to her.  She has previously complained that her brother-in-law doesn't speak to her and her sister does not talk to her as much.  She has not yet asked why I have not responded.  When she has been confronted by her other relatives, she continues to act completely oblivious to WHY everyone is angry at her.

Bones

Certain Hope:

--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 22, 2008, 07:59:34 AM ---
Thanks, Carolyn.

I recently got ANOTHER e-mail from NDoofus and I have not responded to her.  She has previously complained that her brother-in-law doesn't speak to her and her sister does not talk to her as much.  She has not yet asked why I have not responded.  When she has been confronted by her other relatives, she continues to act completely oblivious to WHY everyone is angry at her.

Bones

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Dear Bones,

I don't think she's acting... she seems to be genuinely oblivious. That doesn't mean she should receive pity or enabling as a response... only that maybe the anger at her can get chucked out the door and a new reason for not responding to her could take its place... ?
Just a thought. This is the way I'm trying to view my parents mail-contacts to me... so that they'll no longer arouse madness OR pity, but a detached understanding that this is simply the way they are.

Reason being, somewhere deep inside, I think it's possible for us to convince ourselves that we really are angry at "them"... long past the point where the anger shoulda been replaced by acceptance - not of their bad behaviour, but of our own inability to change them.

Love to you,
Carolyn

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