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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on June 14, 2008, 04:43:34 PM ---Dear Bones,
Sounds like it's time to do more than suggest.
Counseling may be the best immediate investment that he could make into your future as a couple...
whether he goes alone or you two go together.
It's okay for you to not know how to approach him... or to address your issues with the relationship you two have, you know?
This is tricky stuff.
And it's okay for him to not know how to respond.
But it's a stalemate for now... unless one of you chooses to take a stand, isn't it?
This is just me, but I do think I'd take a stand for counseling. To my mind, that's the least someone can do in order to show a sincere interest in growing the relationship.
Love,
Carolyn
P.S. I read your latest installment on your story thread and I'm so sorry that woman managed to taint your present-day experience that way.
Just wishing you would go out and buy a brand new, spiffy bathing suit... in honor of yourself, today!
Shopping is not my thing, but if I were there, I'd go with you!
And I can imagine the frustration that's been attached to your handicrafting. When you've never been allowed to have anything for yourself, simply because it's special to you and uniquely yours, it's very demoralizing to have someone constantly saying, "Gimme!" and refusing to acknowledge the value of the gift you have to offer... at your own discretion!
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Thanks, Carolyn!
I'm still trying to process a lot of things. There's so much going through my mind and emotions that it feels like it's all a jumble.
Bones
Ami:
Dear Bones,
This is going to sound elementary cuz it is(lol), but I got some e books on how to communicate with men and they really, really helped. There are some things that men and women see totally differently.Understanding that helps to mend fences and build bridges in an easy way.
Sending greetings to you, Bones. Love Ami
Certain Hope:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on June 15, 2008, 05:23:12 PM ---
Thanks, Carolyn!
I'm still trying to process a lot of things. There's so much going through my mind and emotions that it feels like it's all a jumble.
ny
Bones
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I understand, Bones. My suggesting a buncha stuff may only create more jumbling. Just give a holler anytime, okay? I'm pleased to listen and even spout off, as requested :)
Would it help you to make a list of pros and cons?
I know, kinda lame, but that's always helped me to sort.
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on June 15, 2008, 05:30:47 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on June 15, 2008, 05:23:12 PM ---
Thanks, Carolyn!
I'm still trying to process a lot of things. There's so much going through my mind and emotions that it feels like it's all a jumble.
ny
Bones
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I understand, Bones. My suggesting a buncha stuff may only create more jumbling. Just give a holler anytime, okay? I'm pleased to listen and even spout off, as requested :)
Would it help you to make a list of pros and cons?
I know, kinda lame, but that's always helped me to sort.
Love,
Carolyn
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I usually make such a list. Right now, I'm trying to work through the jumble of emotions before I can think.
Bones
Certain Hope:
Bones, when I get that way, it's usually time to let go and have a good cry.
Love,
Carolyn
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