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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #915 on: September 30, 2009, 02:47:58 PM »
I'll go ahead and post another example of a Narcissist....The Super-Religious Narcissistic Nut!!!!

This is the type of Narcissist who doesn't hesitate to use religion as their weapon of choice to attempt to FORCE you to do what THEY DEMAND!!!!   :P

Examples:

"GOD TOLD ME TO ORDER YOU TO CONVERT TO CATHOLICISM!!!!"  (God NEVER told her THAT!!!  THAT IS HER NARCISSISTIC EGO TALKING!!!!)

"GOD TOLD ME THAT I AM ENTITLED TO HAVE AS MANY GRANDCHILDREN AS I WANT SO MY CHILDREN ARE NOT ALLOWED TO USE ANY FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL!!!!!"  (What planet is she living on?!?!?!?!?!?   :?)

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« Reply #916 on: October 01, 2009, 10:46:02 AM »
Another tactic that the N-Religious Nut tried to pull on me.....

GOD TOLD ME TO TELL YOU TO STORE MY STUFF FOREVER FOR FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(She got told:  NOPE!!!!)

Her response?

I'M GOING TO SUE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(Bring it on!!!!!  After nearly 30 years, the statute of limitations has RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  The judge would have a FIELD DAY with her!!!)

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« Reply #917 on: October 01, 2009, 02:55:48 PM »
Somewhere, earlier, in this thread, there was a brief discussion of raw food being part of one's eating plan.  Well, I recently tried some juice that had some raw kombucha in it and I need to post a caveat about it......

When I was in the grocery store and was looking at the organic health food refrigerator, I noticed a bottle labeled:  "Synergy - Organic and Raw Cosmic Cranberry".  The label also included:  "rejuvenate, restore, revitalize, replenish, regenerate" with "enzymes, probiotics and detoxifiers" along with "organic acids, aminos, and electrolytes".  It also states that "Kombucha supports digestion, metabolism, immune system, appetite control, weight control, liver function, body alkalinity, anti-aging, cell integrity, healthy skin & hair". 

I tend to also look at the Nutrition Facts on the label along with the ingredients and I did not see a problem......at first.  I bought a bottle and took it home.  When I first opened it, I realized it was carbonated.  (Carbonated beverage in a GLASS bottle, not a good idea in this day and age if it's accidentally shaken.  Can we say "Glass Hand Grenade?")  After I drank the carbonated cranberry juice with raw kombucha, I started experiencing unpleasant somatic sensations after about an hour or so.  I looked at the bottle again, and didn't see anything in the ingredients to explain my unpleasant physical reaction!

Then I pulled out my magnifying glass and started looking over every inch of the bottle and found this TINY NOTE:  "Please note - Due to the fermentation, this product may contain a trace amount of alcohol (less than 0.5%)"   :shock:  THAT was what was triggering my unpleasant sensations because I am ALLERGIC!!!!!

NOTE TO SELF:  DON'T BUY THAT JUICE AGAIN!!!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #918 on: October 02, 2009, 12:18:27 PM »
So far, I've mentioned the passive-aggressive Narcissist, the Manipulative Narcissist, the Narcissistic Rage-aholic, and the Super-Religious Narcissistic Nut.....what other types of Narcissists are out there that we need to watch out for?

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« Reply #919 on: October 02, 2009, 09:53:03 PM »
Bones,

I'd say just watch out for any of them N's! There seems to be so many out there and somehow we have managed to live through it!!! Let's just NEVER do it again!  :shock:

I also had the same experience with a drink after visiting a health food store about six years ago. Bought a sandwich and drink to consume during a drive from one place to another. When I opened the drink it fizzed all over me and smelled like alcohol! Now, I don't mind having a drink, but...I was driving and was so worried about getting pulled over. I couldn't wait to get home!

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« Reply #920 on: October 02, 2009, 09:57:49 PM »
Bones,

sometimes I think that they are all of the kinds of N's that you mentioned tied into one. Seems to depend on which way the wind blows I think!!!

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« Reply #921 on: October 02, 2009, 10:11:12 PM »
Bones,

I'd say just watch out for any of them N's! There seems to be so many out there and somehow we have managed to live through it!!! Let's just NEVER do it again!  :shock:

I also had the same experience with a drink after visiting a health food store about six years ago. Bought a sandwich and drink to consume during a drive from one place to another. When I opened the drink it fizzed all over me and smelled like alcohol! Now, I don't mind having a drink, but...I was driving and was so worried about getting pulled over. I couldn't wait to get home!

Getnbtr

Thanks, Getnbtr!

It seems that nowadays, one has to go grocery shopping with a magnifying glass to read the labels to prevent problems such as this!

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« Reply #922 on: October 02, 2009, 10:12:57 PM »
Bones,

sometimes I think that they are all of the kinds of N's that you mentioned tied into one. Seems to depend on which way the wind blows I think!!!

Getnbtr

Yeah, and at the same time, it helps to recognize what type of N is being encountered so we don't get sucked in again!

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« Reply #923 on: October 02, 2009, 11:35:02 PM »
The way I look at it....N's are like venomous spiders!!!!!!

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« Reply #924 on: October 03, 2009, 01:30:25 PM »
And there are different types of Narcissistic Venomous Spiders....from the type that ensnare you in their sticky web to the type that hide and ambush you!

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« Reply #925 on: October 04, 2009, 08:15:13 AM »
I think I mentioned on both boards about how the N-Super-Religious Nut attempted to ORDER me to HOARD HER STUFF FOREVER!!

How many of us have had to deal with a Hoarding N?

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« Reply #926 on: October 04, 2009, 08:28:42 AM »
I like your posts , Bones. I don't have a Hoarding N. My M is the Boob N like N Doofus. My H is the Manipulative, Charming, Subtle N(or N ish  )                          xxxooo
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #927 on: October 04, 2009, 09:12:42 AM »
Thanks, Ami.

I remember from the other board that a member's NWomb-Donor was so BAD about hoarding that her house got CONDEMNED!!!!   :shock: :shock:  Then the NWomb-Donor tried to FORCE her children to store her hoard for her in their homes!!!!   :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

I'm wasn't surprised when the NWomb-Donor got told:  "N-O!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #928 on: October 04, 2009, 11:33:31 AM »
My NH is a hoarder and so is his NM. He's a building contractor, so when he remodels he stores the crap people are trying to get rid of. He says that he will reuse it but rarely does. Last year I ordered a dumpster the size of a trailer on the back of a tractor trailer and cleaned out his shop. We threw away among lots of other stuff 135 doors that were rotted out from the bottom. 50+ garage door openers
and old garage doors, 70+ speakers, about 12 stereo systems-BIG ones, 15 vacuum cleaners.....etc.....
When I cleaned the office part a couple of years ago I gave him a huge pile of old samples of roofing, siding, carpet etc...that were way outdated. He was suppose to take it to our dumpster. I found the whole pile hidden under one of the 20 desks in the shop. He even takes broken plastic lawn furniture.
The worse part is that people have seen this stuff and ask him for it and he will not give or sell it to them. It sits in a damp building and rots for years. When I try to get rid of stuff from out home he tries to keep it. I have to burn it or wrap it up so he doesn't see it or it will show back up. Most stuff I take to Good Will. But broken deteriorated stuff??? I don't get it!

His mother collects weird stuff. I was to her home just once 20 years ago. I asked her where the price tags were and she seemed puzzled. I thought that she had a gift shop, things were grouped together. You could barley move in there, little trails were everywhere. She told me that they were her things! Seems people are replaced by their THINGS!!!

This makes me feel violated because I have to struggle to keep order.

He also buys so much food and stuffs it into our cabinets. As soon as I can finally see what I have it gets stuffed back again. Then has the nerve to say that I never have his type of cereal on Sunday morns. Has a BIG fight with me!
Last Sunday I pulled everything out of the cabinet and showed him 6 opened boxes of HIS cereal, all opened and eaten out of once!!! He quickly ignored me and walked out the door!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #929 on: October 04, 2009, 11:57:10 AM »
My NH is a hoarder and so is his NM. He's a building contractor, so when he remodels he stores the crap people are trying to get rid of. He says that he will reuse it but rarely does. Last year I ordered a dumpster the size of a trailer on the back of a tractor trailer and cleaned out his shop. We threw away among lots of other stuff 135 doors that were rotted out from the bottom. 50+ garage door openers
and old garage doors, 70+ speakers, about 12 stereo systems-BIG ones, 15 vacuum cleaners.....etc.....
When I cleaned the office part a couple of years ago I gave him a huge pile of old samples of roofing, siding, carpet etc...that were way outdated. He was suppose to take it to our dumpster. I found the whole pile hidden under one of the 20 desks in the shop. He even takes broken plastic lawn furniture.
The worse part is that people have seen this stuff and ask him for it and he will not give or sell it to them. It sits in a damp building and rots for years. When I try to get rid of stuff from out home he tries to keep it. I have to burn it or wrap it up so he doesn't see it or it will show back up. Most stuff I take to Good Will. But broken deteriorated stuff??? I don't get it!

His mother collects weird stuff. I was to her home just once 20 years ago. I asked her where the price tags were and she seemed puzzled. I thought that she had a gift shop, things were grouped together. You could barley move in there, little trails were everywhere. She told me that they were her things! Seems people are replaced by their THINGS!!!

This makes me feel violated because I have to struggle to keep order.

He also buys so much food and stuffs it into our cabinets. As soon as I can finally see what I have it gets stuffed back again. Then has the nerve to say that I never have his type of cereal on Sunday morns. Has a BIG fight with me!
Last Sunday I pulled everything out of the cabinet and showed him 6 opened boxes of HIS cereal, all opened and eaten out of once!!! He quickly ignored me and walked out the door!!!


GEEZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   :shock: :shock: :? :?

I know my home is cluttered and I'm trying to GET RID of stuff I no longer need!!!  There's a shredding event coming up soon, in my community, and I already have two boxes ear-marked for shredding.  One of the things I've noticed about Ding-Bat boyfriend is that as soon as I get a place cleared out on my floor...he goes right behind me and RE-CLUTTERS IT WITH HIS JUNK THAT HE BRINGS OVER FROM HIS SEVERELY CLUTTERED HOUSE!!!!   :twisted: :twisted:  Then stands there, with the "deer-in-the-headlights" look when I start yelling at him!!!!!  Then, when my old microwave broke.....he replaced it while I was out, (that was nice of him), but then DUMPED MY OLD BROKEN MICROWAVE IN THE MIDDLE OF MY LIVING ROOM FLOOR KNOWING FULL-BLEEPING-WELL THAT I AM UNABLE TO PICK IT UP!!!!!  Maybe your H and my Ding-Bat bf are twins separated at birth?!?!?!?!?!?

Sheesh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   :P

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