Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Under the category of "America's Dumbest N's", what other stuff would you describe here?

One Christmas memory that comes to mind occurred way back when I was still a little kid.  NWomb-Donor came home, carrying a paper grocery bag, set it down in front of my NGC brother and me and told us NOT to look in it because it was for Christmas!  (Now how STUPID is THAT?!?!?!?   )  Needless to say, being curious YOUNG CHILDREN, we peeked into the bag and what I saw was nothing more than cast-off JUNK from HER friends!!     NWomb-Donor caught us DISOBEYING HER ROYAL DECREE, flew into another one of her N-RAGES, and BEAT both of us.  She then DECREED that we would NEVER get what was in that bag and we never did!  (I look back at that and realized that by NOT GIVING US THAT TRASHY SH*T, she did us an inadvertent favor!) 

Bones

[BonesMS]

I must confess, Amy Alkon's phrase of "Narcissistic Jerkwad" had me rolling on the floor laughing!!!!!   


http://www.creators.com/advice/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/the-boors-and-the-bees.html

[BonesMS]

What other examples can you give of "America's Dumbest N's"?

[BonesMS]

When I was working some years ago, the following happened to a now-former co-worker:

She arrived for work, one Monday morning, crying about being in jail over the weekend!     I asked her what happened.  She proceeded to tell me that she had gone over to a city in Montgomery County, Maryland, and parked her car in a spot that was clearly marked:  "No Parking" IN FRONT OF A POLICE OFFICER!!!      The police officer pointed out the "No Parking" sign and informed her that she is NOT allowed to park her car there.  She got miffed, got back in her car, and proceeded to move her car to another spot that was, again, clearly marked:  "NO PARKING" while the police officer watched her!      He walked over to her and, again, pointed out the "No Parking" sign and reminded her that she is NOT allowed to park her car where it says "No Parking".  At that point, she reached into her car, pulled out an empty pop bottle, AND THREW IT AT THE POLICE OFFICER!!!!      Needless to say, she got arrested, had handcuffs slapped on her, and was thrown in jail until she was able to get one of her friends to bail her out! 

At the end of her "tale of woe", she demanded I feel sorry for HER because this police officer had the audacity to tell her "N-O"!  (WTF?!?!?!?   )  The only response I could give was:  "You assaulted a police officer by throwing a pop bottle at him!  What do you expect?!?!?!?  I can't feel sorry for stupidity!  What would Judge Judy say to that?!?!?"  She got ROYALLY pissed off at me because I DARED side with the police officer against her!  (*Shaking my head*)

Bones

[debkor]

Here is one for you Bones..

N has an affair (while with husband)
N divorced from husband and had an affair on the affair/bf
The last b/f dumped her but is still in contact
Then she got a new b/f kept contact with the two (affair) b/f's and ex-husband
The new b/f she said (assaulted her) then didn't assult her and he dumped her but still in contact with her..
And was with some of the (affair, affair, b'fs friends).

With the one b/f ...She told everyone she was moving to NY
With the other b/f ...She told everyone she was moving down South
Then she was going to Fla
Now to Calif...

And she invited everyone of them for Christmas ...
Jerry, Jerry, Springer, Jerry.......

[BonesMS]

Here is one for you Bones..

N has an affair (while with husband)
N divorced from husband and had an affair on the affair/bf
The last b/f dumped her but is still in contact
Then she got a new b/f kept contact with the two (affair) b/f's and ex-husband
The new b/f she said (assaulted her) then didn't assult her and he dumped her but still in contact with her..
And was with some of the (affair, affair, b'fs friends).

With the one b/f ...She told everyone she was moving to NY
With the other b/f ...She told everyone she was moving down South
Then she was going to Fla
Now to Calif...

And she invited everyone of them for Christmas ...
Jerry, Jerry, Springer, Jerry.......

OMG, that N is a SCREWBALL!!!!!!! 

Bones

[BonesMS]

Please add to the encyclopedia of "Dumb Things That N's Do".

[BonesMS]

Have not been in a good place, physically, this week.  Tuesday, December 7th, I had a sonogram done on my kidneys to check for the cyst that the urologist noticed on my CT scan.  The procedure itself wasn't bad but, later, I had a bout of pain in both my spastic colon and kidneys.  (Made me wonder if the ultra-sound triggered that.)  Then I had to go back to the dentist on Thursday because a bone fragment, from a tooth extraction, had pierced upward through the gum and the fragment had to get cut out.  UGH!!!   

[Hopalong]

Owww, so sorry, Bones!

You have a plateload of things to deal with and you're awfully brave about it.

Hope you shed the discomfort fast and get back to Living Large in the Moment.

xo
Hops

[BonesMS]

Owww, so sorry, Bones!

You have a plateload of things to deal with and you're awfully brave about it.

Hope you shed the discomfort fast and get back to Living Large in the Moment.

xo
Hops

Thanks, Hops!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Not sleeping well this morning and also feel the need to vent a little.

My community had a holiday party, recently, and there had been discussion about a Secret Santa gift exchange that really didn't get past the verbal stage.  (I've participated in Secret Santa gift exchanges before I retired and I tend to be a bit anal about how it is organized.  For example, for people who want to participate, they would fill out a form explaining what they like, what they don't like, ANY FOOD ALLERGIES, medical issues, etc. so that the individual drawing their name won't blindly buy "stuff" that is inappropriate/can't be used.  Does this make sense?)

Well, because the discussion never got past the verbal stage during the planning of this party, I didn't buy anything because (1) I had no idea WHO to buy for, (according to their Santa Wish), (2) NOR did I have that kind of money to splurge due to all the medical stuff that has hit me this year.  Several others, on the committee, didn't buy anything either because they forgot about the discussion, (nothing was written down).  One person bought gifts for everyone else on the committee and fussed about the fact that no one else did.  (Unfortunately, the gifts she bought weren't exactly suitable for the recipients.  I got a set of socks that are several sizes too big and I, normally, don't wear socks.)  If she expected me to blindly buy STUFF for EVERYONE on the committee, I just don't have that kind of finances nor do I feel comfortable buying "stuff" that someone could be allergic to, doesn't want or can't use!   

Is it just me?

Bones

[Baddaughter]

Morning Bones!  I can appreciate your frustration!  Secret Santa is for the under 12 set!  By our age it is simply a Pain -- no secret.  I give a little gift to those I care to and steer clear of the "forced' giving.  They don't seem to realize what a huge sacrifice it can represent to shave out cash for Christmas!  Have you noticed how many of us "victims" are BROKE?  I only have what little I have (left) because I've finally said NO!  (low contact four years - no contact 11 months). 

But at the same time -- this is my first ever Christmas that I'm in charge -- and I'm trying very hard to have a lovely sane holiday.  Started in Oct and got out long forgotten Christmas things and am dong the whole bit just for us two this year -- but low key with no huge expectations. 

So in other words, I've got a lot of hope for us!

Your post reminded me of several (hideous / funny now) Christmas stories -- we should start a thread?  Do you think?

Love and Merry Christmas if I can't find my voice again by then.  Biddy

[BonesMS]

Thanks, Biddy!  I LOVE your idea!!!   

What is the most HIDEOUS/UNSUITABLE/DUMB gift that an N gave you?

I'll start with a few:  a half-used jar of jelly, two boxes of (unwrapped) dish-washing detergent with the prices written on them in LARGE NUMBERS in black magic marker, socks that are either too big or too small.

Who's next?

Bones

[Baddaughter]

At our house, it wasn't the gift usually, so much as the twisting of the guts that always accompanied it!  I think of it as the mindf#@k that keeps on giving. 

--  sorry I didn't think you would want all that junk here and started a new thread -- more than happy to move our "memories" back over here if you want!  Didn't mean to hijack your thread!

[debkor]

Oh Bones,  LOL ..half jar of jelly    Lousy gift but gave me a laugh. Laundry Det (another laugh) lol.
 
I hope you are feeling better today.

Pocahontas pillow cover (1) but my D was 19 years old.  
Picture and frame (an elderly couple) that no one knew.