CB

[finding peace]

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you today.

(((((CB))))))

Please let us know how it went and how you are doing.

Peace

[cats paw]

     Ditto.

  ((((CB))))

    cats paw

[lighter]

Yes yes yes CB.

Let us know how you're doing, please. 

::saying a little prayer for CB::

[Certain Hope]

((((((((((CB))))))))))

It's over!

Grieve when you feel like it and rejoice when you feel like it and all will become balanced again. No rush on any of it, just allowing it as it comes... no explanation or defense necessary.
Freedom!

Bunches of love,
Hope

[Iphi]

Congratulations CB, what a passage!  Your courage and perseverance have seen you through!

[bigalspal]

CB,
You go, Girl!!
Now a new chapter begins!
I'm so happy for you!
Love, Bigalspal

[WRITE]

I am free.  And it feels really, really good.

Congratulations and a shoulder for your cry.

I've cried pretty much every day since my divorce was final but so much is so much better. It's such a release.

I asked the Therapist about it and she said it's a powerful symbol of a bond as much as anything else, just getting divorced draws a new line in the sand....

Every day I feel like a knot unfurls somewhere within me, it is so much better to be divorced CB.

Hope you enjoyed the frappacino and enjoy the cathartic cleaning too!

Love to you.

~W

[lighter]

I think theres a line of thought about our inner selves being the same as our living space.... not sure but I'm in the middle of huge organizing now.

I'm glad your court ordeal seems to be over.... even though it doesn't seem fair. 

He wouldn't have been happy with anything short of you getting DEBT ONLY. 

The lion's share of the farm sounds quite nice, even if it wasn't fair.  AND you have the power to deal and sell without him messing with it!

That is perhaps the best part. 

I guess you have a little regret at not waiting and seeing what the Judge had to say? 

What do you think would have happened... just curiouse.... had you waited and gone to court?

What did you want to happen?

[Hopalong]

Congratulations, sweet CB.

I think those tears would be grief/relief/joy all together.

Cry you a river, hon. It's a river of life.

You'll probably feel numb for a few days and then the freedom will start to sink in.

I feel like jumping a plane to Texas to drag you to a line dancing bar!

(I know, you're not ready for a new cowboy.)

If I could cook other than "beeping", hmmm, I think--comfort food. What does an actual cook like yourself make for comfort food?

Banana pudding? Tapioca? Vanilla? I am definitely thinking pudding.

Would you like some pudding?
A few vats of pudding?
How about we get a kiddie wading pool and fill it with pudding and buy a huge bag of plastic spoons and run around the complex inviting all the neighbors out for a Divorce Pudding Party Service? And they should wear their swimsuits? And when everyone's fed their fill, you get to make a little speech and then jump into the rest of the pudding? And then the kids? Is this working for you? It is for me! Can I come??

Much love,
Hops

[finding peace]

Hi CB,

It has been a long and torturous haul to and through the mountain of mordor - I envision that today, you were finally able to throw that ring in the fire. 

I am so glad it is over for you - a big sigh of relief that resonates through the soul.

Closing a chapter - good/bad/or some of both, is always worthy of sadness, with hope and happiness to follow at the prospect of a new and better chapter to follow.

(((((Sending you hugs and a big thanks for the support you have shown me while you were going through so much)))))

Peace

[Gaining Strength]

thinking of you too, CB123.  Didn't see this thread when I post the other one.  So glad it's over.  It took too long.

[cats paw]

CB,

   Just wanted to add my voice to the chorus.  I'll be looking forward to your future postings when you're ready.

cats paw

[Bella_French]

Congratulations CB, I am glad that you got some of what you wanted. Your marriage wasn't a failure CB; it was the price you paid for the gift of your wisdom and future happiness, dear one. You are free to create your new life now.

Love to you.

X Bella

[teartracks]

Hi CB,

I posted on GS's thread, but it won't hurt to post again here.  I'm happy for your freedom.  Now the transition.  Those can be very hard sometimes.  But once the transition runs its course things will level out.  You've made wonderful progress and have been so strong.  Thank you so much for taking time out of a horrendous day to tell us how it went.   

Sincerely,

tt

[finding peace]

I am so sorry CB, I never intended to make you sad, or contribute to your sadness. 

When all is said and done, you have been to hell and back.  You have had so much upheaval in such a short period of time.  The stress (both good and bad) ofttimes keeps us afloat – and when that stress ends, especially when it ends abruptly - that is when the feelings that we have put on hold catch up with us. 

I am not sure where a sense of humiliation would come in.  From the outside looking in, I can tell you that I see absolutely nothing for you to have a sense of humilation about.  What I do see is the tremendous amount of strength, courage, fortitude, and grace as you have pulled yourself and your children through this nightmare and into a new and better future. 

(((((((((((((((((((((CB))))))))))))))))))))))))

With much love,
Peace