Simple good news

[Hopalong]

Hi all,
For those who held my hand during some very painful times with my D, this will make sense.

I am relieved and happy because my D called me Friday night for some support over a job issue. I just listened and supported and gave only the advice she asked for. At the end of the call, I said thank you for calling, I really appreciate it. (No guilting, just genuine no-strings thanks.) She called me Saturday night too and just gave me verbal affection, for no reason at all.

With her second call, I felt as though she was intentionally conveying love. Without fear of strings or being fused or anything. I felt greatly reassured, because it was something new. As though she "got it"--I wasn't trying to overwhelm her, I just love her and like to hear from her.

Sounds silly for 2 calls to signify a change, but I think she's differentiated now, in a way that she can finally perceive me as a separate person--not just "overwhelming Mom".

I had given her space and wasn't pursuing. Funny how that works. 

love
Hops

[Certain Hope]

Cool, Hops   I didn't do much hand-holding at that time, but I get it now!

And I don't see you as overwhelming mom anymore either 

(((((((((Hops)))))))))

Love,
Hope

[Ami]

Dear Hops,
   What hit me was you "let it go" and it came back to you.
    I am so, so happy for you and for her. Thanks again for your wisdom. I NEEDED it .I wanted to say something really positive that I see in you . I am only a person on the board,but I see that you allow people to go "their own way" and still love and encourage them .You don;t have to "protect a certain way of thinking".I have been appreciating that for a while and wanted to let you know    Love Ami

[Hopalong]

Thank you so much, Hope...to know you see that change in me means more than I can say. Ulp.

Ami, to have affirmation from you also means a very great deal. Thank you.

sniff.

THANK YOU! 

Hops

[Tweety]

Hops
I wasn't one of the hand holders either ,
but I'm sure glad this all worked out for you.
 

I had given her space and wasn't pursuing. Funny how that works

I just love it when these little sayings and slogans work out...they really are true for a reason..........
It warms my heart and gives me so much hope &  encouragement to carry on
LET GO AND LET GOD

Love Tweety

[Iphi]

Thank you for sharing your experience Hops.  When it works it's wonderful!

[isittoolate]

hi Hops

I had given her space and wasn't pursuing. Funny how that works

I hope that works for me. She stopped the game with no word, maybe too busyt, maybe stuck, as I am, but not a word.

I plan to leave it and not pursue it!

Love Izzy

[Gaining Strength]

She called me Saturday night too and just gave me verbal affection, for no reason at all.

Wow Hops.  what a difference a year can make.  I am truly, truly happy for you.  I't so important and you needed  and deserved it.  I'm so glad for you both.

your friend - Gaining Strength

[lighter]

Wow... Hops.

I bet you're a great mom.

[Bella_French]

I am so glad to hear your news, Hops. Though i cannot imagine you as `overwhelming'. I love your writing and your style of advising whilst encouraging me, and others.
She is lucky to have you.

X Bella

[debkor]

Hops,

This is such great  news.  I am so happy!!!!!!! happy, happy, happy!!!!!

Your good people Hops and the apple don't fall far from the tree.  You got a good kido there too.

Love
Deb

[cats paw]

   What kind of dancing lessons did you take to learn to do a different step?

   Here's to your continuing grace.


cats paw

[finding peace]

Hops,

I am so happy for you both, and I agree, she is very lucky to have you.

Peace

[Hopalong]

Y'all are choking me up again.

Somethings up down there where D is!
She called again tonight!

The pretext was to update me on the rabies situation (she was exposed at work and has to take the shots) but she also mentioned a male friend had just arrived...and he's been her "friend" for a while.

Oh lordy, I hope I don't start worrrying again. She's picked some people who hurt her, before.

Cancel that! She's a grown woman and I want her happy!

love and thanks again to each and all of you dear ones,
Hops

[teartracks]

Dear Hops,

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Mama love/daughter love)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Loving your 'simple good news'!

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