towrite,
Sorry to take so long to answer your question. I had to get through the visit and then detox for a bit. It was a crazy-making visit in that she hid her true colors for the most part. I think she was careful because my husband and my dad were here and she doesn't like to piss of men, especially. She fancies that my husband thinks she is special, too, I am sure.
At any rate, I mean that while I envision that she has these malicious thoughts about me all the time, almost all of the time she is really completely unconcerned about me. And when I said I was boring, I meant to her (although sometimes I do start to feel it when I let it sneak through...). She changes the subject whenever I bring up something she doesn't know about, calls my sister constantly (yet she says she "forgets" that she can call me - and whenever she does, she says she has to use a calling card or some such thing). My parents took the kids to an amusement park and she had to call my sister and laugh and giggle with her on the phone about this and that for a half an hour while there. Basically, every rude thing that she has told me not to do, she does while with me.
I also caught her in a million lies and heard a million made-up stories. Now that I know she lies, it is so easy to see it. And my family - mother, father and sister, delight in ragging on people - something I do not enjoy at all. If I don't like a person, I stay away. What is the point of surrounding yourself with annoying people and then bitching about them? They love the drama, all of them. I think it is juvenile and stupid. I left high-school a long time ago. My sister loves to come home from work and talk about how annoying her patients were. My mother told me about this dream that she had where she was trying to go do something she wanted and an old lady fell in front of her and, because she is a nurse she felt she had to help and she was so irritated that she had to waste her time helping the person.
She also made statements all week, like "Your kids probably don't even know who Adma and Eve are," "There's a pretty song on the radio, I know you won't play THAT one," and so on...
And, by the way, my kids proceeded to tell her about Adam and Eve (they have read the kids' version of the Bible and we talk about it, of course). And the song I had glossed over was a Weird Al song I thought she might not enjoy... but I played it for her since she "asked." I didn't let her get to me and she pulled no really crazy moves this time.
My kids had a great visit with my parents - they adore my dad. They asked why they couldn't stay longer - I don't think they figured out that my parents are going on vacation with their friends and decided they couldn't spare more than thee days. My daughter explained to my son that they "had to go back to work."
There's my story. If you made it through, thank you!!!!!
Love, Beth
