It might not work for everyone, depending on the circumstances, but I have put all toxic people in my life away over there on the other side of the fence. There is dead, brown grass. I don't hate them, as I am too busy fixing myself.
On MY side of the fence there is lush green grass (that will never require cutting) and my side of the fence is white (don't know theirs--likely it is bare wood.)
They must stay there and NOT talk to me as I am the one who will allow a conversation, on my side, as I take my time to put my life together the way it actually played out so that I can end up not hating anyone.
I try to think of them as having parents and grandparents and siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins, and poverty, and too much wealth, and physical problems, maybe fell through the hole in the outhouse, lived in a time when they died early in life and likely never knew about psychology, so no one is really to BLAME.
Only one sister of mine, I believe, hates me and that will never change because I am on to her and she will never admiit the truth. I don't hate her, but feel pity for her. She will not be part of my 'healing'.
Izzy
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