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sjkravill:
Wildflower,
Thanks for that quote.  That is helpful.
The funny/sad/strange thing is that often I don't trust what my therapist says until I read it somewhere...
I think I am most hesitant to buy in on something when on some level I don't want what she says to be true...  hmm...
Thanks for the thoughts!  Peace, sjkravill

Anonymous:
Hello Learning and all,

Sjkravill, funny, I have a different kind of doubt with my therapist.  Every time I leave until the time I return I wonder, will she still want me to be her client?  Am I worthy?  This is what my wonderful childhood did for me....seeker

Singer:

--- Quote from: Learning ---Does anyone have any knowledge/experience regarding how to be confident that narcissism is what they are dealing with?

Thanks!
Learning
--- End quote ---


Learning,

What brought it home to me was when my NMother turned on her "favorite" grandson. Narcissists truly are not capable of love. That can be hard to spot because they can act very loving when they want to. And anyone can be cranky, or act thoughtlessly from time to time, most everyone does. But it's much more than that. A child especially knows when he or she is not loved. It's an absence that can be felt on a gut level. Something just doesn't "ring true".

Singer

sjkravill:
Sjkravill, funny, I have a different kind of doubt with my therapist. Every time I leave until the time I return I wonder, will she still want me to be her client? Am I worthy? This is what my wonderful childhood did for me....seeker

Hey Seeker,  I am sorry you have to think about this, or that this is a natural progression.  
I have feel something similar.  I often wonder if my therapist is tierd of seeing me or frustrated with me, or board to tears with me, because I think my progress is so slow.  I especially freak out about this if she suggests I come back after more time than usual. I think, "maybe she feels at a loss with me, like she nees a break from me."  Now that you mention it, this may well be a childhood issue...
 I wonder if others who struggle with voicelessness have similar anxiety about therapy. Have you ever spoken with your therapist about this?  I never have with mine... maybe I will sometime.
Thanks for sharing!  Peace, sjkravill

Wildflower:
Hi seeker,


--- Quote ---Sjkravill, funny, I have a different kind of doubt with my therapist. Every time I leave until the time I return I wonder, will she still want me to be her client? Am I worthy? This is what my wonderful childhood did for me....
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Oh boy, me, too.  I keep waiting for my therapist to come out with it and tell me how horrible I am and how horrible it was to sit through my endless blabbing about myself.  It's been four years and I'm only now starting to believe her when she says she wants to be there to support me - cos I never got support growing up.  (Is this a trick??)

{EDIT: wow sjkravill, you too?  :shock: I just posted this immediately when I read it...didn't get to your posting.  Geez.  That's it.  I'm going to bring this up at my next session.  Time to face this demon.}

Wildflower

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