Dear Kelly,
I have a very hard time with any stress b/c I am not centered enough in myself ,yet. I don't drink b/c it is medicating the problem. Then , the medicating becomes the bigger problem.
After the alcohol is taken away, the insecure person is still there. Reading the inner child books has helped me to see that my H has an inner child that is "tormenting" him, too.
I don't take any abuse ,but I have a different heart for him ,now. I don't see him as the Ass####.
I see him as a hurting inner child--most of the time. I have shifted in my perceptions with myself and others.Yesterday,I could see the women who were after" my H as "pitiful" .I was not angry as much as sad. I think that the move is 'abnormal" circumstances. No big decisions should be made when you are going through a huge life change like a move(IMO)
Keep sharing and writing about what is going on. It will help you cope better,I think. Love Ami