The Next Level

[isittoolate]

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It appears everyone has said it all.

Sign over property? jointly held? do you want to?

Take good care

Lovve
Izzy

[changing]

Hello Lighter and Izzy-

Lighter it is almost tragic that those immortal Shakespearean lines that you penned may never be recited to the Bagworm. Oh, the injustice of it all! But I still laugh when I read them. Izzy, you could do a lot of damage as a Contracts attorney- your sharp mind gets right to the heart of the matter- Yes Yes No- I don't want to sign anything over...no matter how I placate, it will never end, and you should smack me silly if I ever make any agreements with Bagworm. Let the lawdogs have it in 15 minute increments. Well worth it if I never have any dealings with that Bagworm again.

Love,

Changing

[lighter]

Eh..... can't you find some slimey pervert.... who's way attracted to the bagworm.... to be the go between....

ahem.... FREE go between, lol?

hee

Attorneys get paid a LOT to be go betweens.

And you never know.... you may get to recite some of those great Shakespearean gershlappities....

to bagworm......

in the courtroom......

when no one's looking or listening......

before court starts; )

The attorney's'll be in the hallway.... pattin each other on the back trying to figure out how to settle and knock off early for the day

[lighter]

The attorney's'll be in the hallway.... pattin each other on the back trying to figure out how to settle and knock off early for the day

Oh, jeez, Lighter, is that the worst part or what?  Did you get the feeling that they were actually having their own little party and we were just invited to stand outside and watch?

Ergh.

CB

I felt like that.... sort'a.... and something mooooooorrrre. 

[Certain Hope]

The attorney's'll be in the hallway.... pattin each other on the back trying to figure out how to settle and knock off early for the day

Oh, jeez, Lighter, is that the worst part or what?  Did you get the feeling that they were actually having their own little party and we were just invited to stand outside and watch?

Ergh.

CB

I felt like that.... sort'a.... and something mooooooorrrre. 

I felt that something  mooooooorrrre, as well... something like collusion, and something like... I was but a monkey and the courthouse was their own private little zoo. Definitely doesn't inspire confidence when you know it's all a game to them. Thankfully (heh) there was no big money/property involved, so there was no big advantage to them in alotta wheel spinnin.

[Overcomer]

What blew me away when I got my divorce is when I went into the courthouse my ex's lawyer sent a partner who was a friend of MINE in college so to see him representing ex was hard!

[Certain Hope]

What blew me away when I got my divorce is when I went into the courthouse my ex's lawyer sent a partner who was a friend of MINE in college so to see him representing ex was hard!

eek... Kelly! My suspicious mind wonders whether that was intentional... to set you off-balance. They sure can be calculating! That musta been very distracting.

[Overcomer]

Well we were making nice and then into court.  Luckily my ex brought nothing to the marriage so didnt demand much!

[changing]

Hello Dears-

I had a telephone appointment with the Dean of Students Office of my law school today. I have been getting a creepy feeling from those calls from the Bagworm demanding that I  meet him and sign the property over to him as sole owner, and his showing up at my gate- I have been frantically  finishing up with getting out of the house (before that accident, I could do this sort of thing so quickly! It's aggravating...) so I decided to take one more day and get it done , rather than go back and forth and feel anxious  about what will happen next. When the P.I. gets Bagworm's address, I can have the restraining  order served and guns taken away right then and there-otherwise things could worsen at that point...
The Dean's rep said that I could just say that I had a medical condition or tell  about the entire thing to the profs (What do you think?)
She also said that I need to bring a photo of Bagworm so the guards will take him down if he tries to get in the grounds of the law school, and that they can get me a notetaker, help with typing items, etc.  Not what I had hoped for (I don't know exactly what I had hoped for!) but it's a start. They need written permission to speak with my attorney,but that's  a good thing, actually.
I am going in some direction, but which...I need to settle down and think, make choices, and plan, so that I am more effective. Thank you for being there!

Love,

Changing

[Certain Hope]

Dear Changing,

Personally, I would tell as many people as are willing to listen to be on the lookout for the bagworm.
Doesn't have to be a lengthy explanation, just so they know he is dangerous.
Because he is. Anyone who is that unstable is dangerous, in my experience.
And I hope you get that protective order soonest!!

Love,
Carolyn

[changing]

Certain Hope-

Thank you for you view on this- I am afraid that I hadn't thought of it that way, and I think you are quite right... However, do you think that the profs will write me off as a kook? Oh, I hate this whole thing, and being associated with a Bagworm. It feels like this will never end, but of course it must. Everything seems so hard, I feel like I am freezing up, becoming unable to act or make decisions- I do not like that aspect of my pesonality!!!

Thank you,

Changing

[Certain Hope]

Changing,

The bagworm has had you cowering behind a locked gate with your dogs.

Your survival instincts are keen... but only you can give them voice.

I have no doubt that this is not the first such account of terrorizing these people have heard. Perhaps they've even had such events within their own families - a sister, daughter, friend. I think you'll be amazed at the level of support you find when you share your very valid concerns with them with all sincerity.

I know those feelings so well... but your worm associations have ended. He wasn't a worm when you associated... well, he was, but he was a worm in disguise. God help you to not let him attach his shame to you any more... it's not yours to carry. Put it back where it belongs, okay? Then you won't be frozen.

With love,
Carolyn

[changing]

Thank you Hope- I'll do it!!!!


Love,

Changing

[isittoolate]

Good post Hope

and changing,

Just keep up the forward movement. Do what you can and take help when it is needed (Look who's talking!--but I'm trying)

Apply your version  of "Walk carefully and carry a big stick!"

Look over your shoulder and carry an UZI?

Am off to therapy! OBVIOUSLY I NEED IT!

Love
Izzy

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[changing]

Izzy You Wild Woman You-


Thank you for your funny/smart post. I think that I will go back to therapy as well- I was holding things together, now I feel I can commit the time, etc. Hope you are doing well. What type of bird has replaced your blue rose (excuse my ornithological ignorance)?

Love you,

Changing