Hiya all,
Just heard something that really struck me:
"We heal through loving connections with people. It's not using the right words that matter so much as it is the feeling...."
The idea is that we heal when we feel heard and understood by another human being. It's that connection with another person that is so helpful to our wounded insides. It's true medicine.
This makes so much sense to me and helps me to accept myself as not being always able to say exactly what I want, the way I want, without error, or omission, or without putting at least one foot in my mouth, for a time. It's not so much that it lifts the guilt from my shoulders for the times that I've said the wrong thing (probably it does not excuse that....I would have to take responsibility there and try again).
But more the idea that if I can possibly communicate that I ......want to hear........ to understand....that I care..... I might still be of some help? Maybe even big help?
And when I think about it......that's exactly what has helped me. Not that people have said the right things ...used the right words but more that when I really needed it......I was heard and understood and the feeling that someone....another human being cared made the connection so very healing.
Any thoughts?
Sela
