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cats paw

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Not going back to lurking
« on: September 26, 2007, 09:16:54 PM »

   I feel sad about this  conflict , and I wish things could be better for all concerned, and I just pray that everyone will find their way to resolution.

   One of the things I appreciate is NO ONE one, no matter what their positions or beefs with each other, has treated me unkindly for wanting to relate to whomever I choose.  I hope to eventually talk to everybody on this board.

   Just wanted to say that, and I'm going to MMOB.

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #1 on: September 26, 2007, 09:18:17 PM »
Dear Cat,
  It is beautiful to start trusting your voice---isn't it? That is just what the board is for.     Love   Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #2 on: September 26, 2007, 09:21:06 PM »
Dear kittyfoot,

I'm glad you're not going to lurk. I was going to ask you what mmob meant, but then I got it.

Please know that I may not often understand you... but I like you! I think you're.... neat  8)
I am glad to read your input and hope that you'll continue to share whatever you like, with no fear of rejection. That's a terrible fear... to be deemed unacceptable, less than... and you should never have to be concerned about encountering that here.

My eye is twitching and I'm headed for another bp med right now, so I'm glad you wrote... because I think it's sad, too... and very, very painful.

Love to you,
Carolyn

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #3 on: September 26, 2007, 09:42:32 PM »
I'm glad you said that and will hang around.  :)  These conflicts are rough to read and it's hard to know what to do, if anything.  But I've seen some nice turning points too, recently.  It has been so instructive for me because I see people have to be 'out there' with it in order to allow for transformation.  I don't know about you cats paw, but the idea of being 'out there' really makes my blood run cold.   :shock:

Even though I would like to do anything to avoid conflict or be 'out there' I was thinking tonight that this is really where I need to be because people here are learning what I need to learn, doing what I need to learn.  Some folks here are chapters ahead of me in the Book.  You know?  I really admire everybody for being 'out there' and understand everybody who, like me, would rather not be.
Character, which has nothing to do with intellect or skill, can evolve only by increasing our capacity to love, and to become lovable. - Joan Grant

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2007, 10:12:25 PM »
Hi Iphi,

  Yes, this is hard, and I'm being pretty "out there" recently.

Carolyn,

   I think you do understand me in the ways that help; even if I don't write clearly about some of the ideas I'm trying to express,
   you understand the feelings.

Ami,

   Thanks for saying that. 

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #5 on: September 27, 2007, 01:17:45 AM »
You're our Cat.
You're here and part of us.
You don't have to worry about whether your voice is welcome.

You can purr or meow or even screech.

love,
Hops
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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2007, 05:29:28 AM »
I want to echo Hops, Cat. 

I have watched a lot of interaction on the board in the last year and seen a lot of people come and go.  Amazing, but I can remember all of them--even the ones who are gone now. 

Some have grabbed my heart--and you are one of those, Kitty.  I'm glad you're back.

Much, much love,
CB
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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #7 on: September 27, 2007, 06:16:53 AM »
Cat-I feel bad about conflict as well.  We have a girl at work and it does not matter what controversy is happening, SHE is in the middle of it!  I assume that happens here on the board.  Right now I am under enough stress at home that I try to avoid these here.  You can lurk or just choose to stay away from certain threads or people.
Kelly

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #8 on: September 27, 2007, 06:23:50 AM »
What the hell happened?

::looking around confused::

::erase erase erase, send::

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #9 on: September 27, 2007, 06:29:10 AM »
OK... no time to find it.... if it's something different than what was going on yesterday.

What Hops and CB, said.

Please don't take off those kitty boots: )

Oh great! 

Now I'm gonna be singing

"THESE BOOTS WERE MADE FOR WALKIN< and that's just what they'll do..... da da da da da da da da da walk all over you... da da da da da da da::

DO THE PONY!  EVERYOne..... or not :?

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #10 on: September 27, 2007, 06:23:15 PM »
OK you guys,

   Peeked at the board this AM, didn't have time to reply because I was too busy mopping up tears from the computer desk before I had to get ready to leave.

Cat
   

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #11 on: September 27, 2007, 06:31:00 PM »
You really have been a surprise! 

I'm so glad you found this board kitty paw: )

::wiping tears off kitty's face::

It's ok.... it's ok. 

Come back later and let us know you're feeling better... I hope you are.

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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #12 on: September 27, 2007, 06:40:18 PM »
Cat is staying - yyyyeeeaaahhhh doing the happy dance




oops - kitties like chicken   :shock:  :D

((((Very glad you are not going back to lurking))))

Peace
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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #13 on: September 27, 2007, 06:43:52 PM »
Hey there Missy Lighter,

   (To borrow Carolyn's phrase)

    I should have specified- mostly the good kind of tears.  I'm feeling A-OK except some remaining sadness about all concerned.

Peace,

    Thanks so much!  This kitty is part chicken herself, so no worries!


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Re: Not going back to lurking
« Reply #14 on: September 27, 2007, 06:51:12 PM »
Hi Cat,

I feel bad about the conflict too....about any conflict here, actually.  I think it would be lovely if there never were any conflicts ever (but that's a bit of tooo-wishful-thinking, on my part eh?)

Thing is......we do learn from conflict.  From being right in it  and even from watching it.  Some of what we learn isn't so nice though is it?  Like how bad it feels (during and afterward). 

I'm sorry you had to witness that. To be honest, I feel like I've stood up for myself, after having tried everything else and though it was painful, it was important and necessary.  Otherwise, I'd be allowing it to happen to me......rather than doing something to stop it.  But I also feel bad for anyone who is/was upset by it and wish there were a way to prevent that from happening.

Do you get what I mean?  If you did the talk about it thing and it didn't work.  If you did the avoid thing and it didn't work.  The only thing that works sometimes is to do the tango thing (and I've seen that work out quite nicely, in the end, sometimes.  Believe it or not, people here have had yelling matches and come out of it with the problem resolved, sometimes).   But that didn't happen this time and that makes it hard for others to watch and especially, to see any value from it.

The value I get is that I will feel safer to post on this board now.  That's so important to me.  And actually, it might prevent some stuff from happening to other people too because the precident has now been set.

Anyway, I'm sure you don't need to hear more of this from me.  I just want you to know that I'm sorry it had such an effect on you and I'm glad you feel better.  One thing I was thinking about:  if reading such threads had a really bad effect on me or upset me a whole lot, I just wouldn't read them, I think.  There is always that option eh?

Glad you're not going to lurk too!  I think that would be a real loss.

Sela