Sounds like a Haagen daz night to me: /
So sorry you're having a hard go of it and that your energy is running low to boot.
Happens to me too.... it comes and it goes.
Drink a tall glass of water.....
remember how far you've come and deal with the hard stuff one thing at a time.
Get the stuff packed for camp..... then eat some ice cream.
Think about when you'll seriously approach the healthier eating..... preferably when you aren't struggling terribly with campm, work projects and school.
Also... wait till M has started seeing the T. T can help you get a plan together, figure out incentives and ways to gain his cooperation.
Changing eating patterns isn't something that happens over night.
Like all habits, they're difficult to change so be mindful of the habits you start from here on out and know the struggle to set new habits will be awful so don't start till you have the energy to follow through... then it gets better and things settle back down again.
On that note... my girls started eating baby spinach once I bought some of that Asian Silk Spray on dressing, WISHBONE I think..... I give them each a bottle and they adore it. Things also like to eat things on a stick or tooth pick. As long as they get some protein in...... I don't freak out too much. One eats apples, the other eats unsweetened apple sauce, dried mangos..... trying new stuff and presenting it without pressure works for me. SOMETIMES. So.... if you buy that dressing, or one of the spray on ones, make a big deal of spraying and enjoy it yourself in front of him...... I'm thinking he'll try it. You can't expect to change these habits in a day.... too much pressure.... unrealisitic pressure at that.
Take it easy on yourself, tayana.
Steady and balanced wins the race. Beating yourself up isn't helping anyone.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself
all at once.Stop buying the things you really don't want him to have so you don't have to have that struggle. You can't win when you're tired.... and I know you're tired.
Have healthier choices on hand that aren't so healthy they aren't edible. I made pancakes Sat morning with whole wheat organic flour..... ::gag:: I was trying too hard

I made toasted cheese samiches and we were much happier.
Do you have a panini maker? MMMMMMmmmmm..... samiches aren't just samiches anymore..... they're warm mama lovin and it's easy and toasty crunchy, all kinds of cheeses and condiments out there.
I like hot pepper jack with mushrooms, turkey and a green tomatoe relish I just found. Pepperocini peppers rock.... the kids like those too.
Smoothies are a great way to get fresh fruit into them without forcing the issue. I can keep a container cold in the fridge all day long and serve out of it. I eat lots of it myself sooooo good.
I guess I'll chat with my friend about no gluten or dairy for M. She's making those choices for one of her sons and it's not as hard as she thought it would be. She says it helps the austism enough that she'll continue.
Not sure what you meant by healthier but..... don't put so much pressure on yourself.
Set a timer for 15 minutes and clean clean clean till it rings then see how you feel about setting it again.
I get so much done when I put time restrictions on myself as compared to just facing 5 messes and stumbling from one to the next with no time limit to push me hard at getting something
done.
Like I said.... the T can help you set up incentives and consequences for getting chores done, for M.
You don't have to figure this out all by yourself and all children are different..... kids don't come with instruction books.... you'll figure it out then something else will come along that needs figuring out.
That's the way it is and the important thing is.... you're learning to problem solve and teaching M how to do it too.
Try not to get so frustrated and when you do.... so what? Forgive yourself... it's not the end of the world and you can do better tomorrow or next week.
(((tayana))) Remember.... you're doing amazing things and a messy house isn't the end of the world either.