Author Topic: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit  (Read 4088 times)

Ami

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #15 on: October 18, 2007, 03:30:59 PM »
WOW Cadbury
  THAT was something that turned out "right". Well done, friend.
 Good does prevail over bad sometimes--huh?
  I am really happy for you.  YEAAAAH   Love    Ami
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Cadbury

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #16 on: October 18, 2007, 03:46:00 PM »
Thank you Ami (hugs)

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #17 on: October 18, 2007, 09:37:17 PM »
You must teach literature Cadbury.
That was a great read.

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Me an my mate the judge are equally flummoxed by this.

ROFLMAO :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #18 on: October 18, 2007, 10:20:06 PM »
Bravo Cadbury!!

I hope the nitwit tries the same junk in the other court and the judge is twice as keen and 1/2 as patient!!

Then, let the celebrating begin!!!

Keep going girl!!

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #19 on: October 19, 2007, 12:00:40 AM »
Oh Cadbury,
nothing like a JUDGE saying...NO...to wilt an N right in his wingtips.

Congrats on bravely holding your own,
I know you can do it again!

love and courage,
Hops
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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #20 on: October 20, 2007, 07:53:52 AM »
Thank you all so much for your love and encouragement! It helps a lot. :)

I got my solicitor to write a letter to his solicitor asking him to refrain from his threatening behaviour, hopefully that will entice him to show more of his true self and we'll all be free of him. That's what I'd love more than anything, for everyone to see him for what he truly is. Then there'd be no way they'd grant him direct contact. :P

Hopalong I am sure it was the judge saying no that sparked the rage!

Bean LOL at your reply! It really must feel that way to an N!

Sela Hello to you, I remember all your fabulous posts from when I was first here:) I love to think of him as a nitwit too! It helps de-demonise him.

Mud Thank you! I actually teach maths, but I am glad you liked reading what I'd written :)


Love to all of you, here's hoping he keeps showing his true colours.

Cadbury

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #21 on: October 20, 2007, 03:47:06 PM »
Wonderful, Cad!!!

Hope (I'm sure) your little boy is doing great.

Wishing you all the best

PS: By the way, if you haven't done it yet, don't forget to (discreetly - just call the bank or even ask the judge a recommendation) to get your name off this bank account...  You never know...  And the lesser ties, the better...

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #22 on: October 21, 2007, 04:09:48 PM »
Hi OldGuest !

Thanks for your comments. I have phoned to check with the bank and found out it has not been a joint account since we split three years ago, so my exN had just produced random statements from when we were together!!!

Cadbury

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #23 on: October 21, 2007, 04:37:37 PM »
I am in Canada so maybe rules are different. When I left the N, I went to the bank and signed a form to remove my name from the joint account. I told him that he had to go in and sign off, too.

UNLESS the N went in to sign me off, it remains in both names. He didn't go in.

I do NOT contribute to the account, but I still receive all his bank statements because my name is still on the account,  and this account is linked to my address with my address change upon leaving him, for all accounts in my name, including Visa.

The thing is, the N requires another name on all of his holdings so the government cannot seize his assets, as the assets are someone else's too. So he uses this bank account and my name is still covering him, just because he won't go in and sign me off.

I dissolved our partnership in the business and I know my name is taken off that.

Then about 3 years after leaving, I remembered the business account, in both names, different bank. I went in without the full information, but I am a good customer there, with my own accounts, and I look so honest and sweet, that they completed a form for me to sign off, and THIS time it was the bank manager who called the N to come in and sign me off. I asked later and he did go in!

Anything like that in your country?

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #24 on: October 22, 2007, 07:24:24 AM »
Thanks Izzy!

There is something like that here and I have managed to check and they assure me I have not been attached to the account for nearly three years now. Like you, I had to get the bank manager to sort it as ex N wouldn't go in.

I have just sent him an email asking when he expects to pay me. I hate having to contact him, but if I don't how will I ever get the money?!! I am expecting a rambling, long mess of an email explaining why the debt is not his.... even though the courts say it is. Grrrr! Why oh why are they like this?!! *beats fists against walls in desperation*.

I'll update again if I get a reply. I am trying to see the funny side - that of his world crashing down, rather than the constant frustration.

Cadbury

Ami

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #25 on: October 22, 2007, 07:37:12 AM »
Dear Cadbury,
  Just saying,  "hello".  I hope that wonderful things continue to happen for you. Love Ami
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #26 on: October 22, 2007, 02:47:14 PM »
Thanks Ami

I'll keep you posted :)

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Re: Looooooooooooooooong time no visit
« Reply #27 on: October 22, 2007, 04:34:56 PM »
That was a terrific read, Cadbury.

So glad your Judge had XN's number.

(((Cadbury)))