Emotional Incest and Boundaries

[towrite]

Tay, you're so smart that I'm sure you already know your NM is the one without boundaries. What you are trying to do is set limits for yourself. I hear your boundaries loud and clear. A person without boundaries will never recognize them in others.

I really encourage you to read Betrayal Bonds by Patrick Carnes. He's a national addiction expert and his theory is that addiction is the result (for some people) of living with constant boundary violations. The whole book is about how to set limits and why we have to. It saved my life.

You just keep on going, girl. You are sure on the right track.   (((Tay)))

towrite/Kate

[tayana]

Towrite, you are right.  I suppose I should correct what I said and say, my NM will never respect my boundaries, even when I set them.

I'll have to look for that book. 

I went to a new T today and she agreed that my mother was not only BPD, but also narcissistic.  It really was a relief to hear someone else say that they agreed I didn't need to talk to the woman anymore.