What does this behaviour mean?

[Leah]

Thanks Mud,

Your style has made me smile 

With the words being oh so true.

Love,

Leah

[Leah]

In my opinion, those situations you describe all stem from a deep seated sense of insecurity and needing to look and feel superior to everyone else.  "Catching" the other person in doing something wrong allows the person to put him/herself in a superior position, on a self-imposed throne.  My diminishing the character, behavior and intelligence of others, the person is able (in his mind at least) to boost his own sense of superiority over others.  It's a very small-minded person who can only feel good about themselves by knocking someone else down a peg or two.

There's also that, "Aha!  See, I was right!  So and so did this or that wrong, made a mistake, isn't perfect."  Because only the N can be perfect.  Also, some might take added N pleasure in not only calling out someone who has done something wrong but also appearing the oh-so-helpful martyr by saying that he can cure that person of his ails, solve his problems or improve his character.  It all serves to boost his image and sense of superiority of others.  Selfish to the core and often cruel.  If they can't boost themselves up in others' eyes by being a worthy person, they attempt to do so by knocking someone else down.  This can be done by finding their weaknesses, pointing out their mistakes or bad behavior or demeaning their achievements.

Ultimately, it's never about the other person.  It always comes back to the N's need to feel superior and righteous and perfect.


Sunblue, I think you nailed about every N on the planet with this descriptiion, esp  By diminishing the character, behavior and intelligence of others, the person is able (in his mind at least) to boost his own sense of superiority over others.  It's a very small-minded person who can only feel good about themselves by knocking someone else down a peg or two.

Dear Bill,

Yes, Sunblue has just about nailed every N on the planet with such an apt description.

Certainly applies to all the N's in my life --- FOO and exNH

Almost as though they wish to annihilate anyone who demonstrates a measure of intelligence and integrity.

Love,

Leah

[gratitude28]

Leah,
I didn't read through all the answers yet, but maybe the person suspects another because he is doing what he thinks the other person is doing????
Looking back here, I also agree with the need to see others doing wrong. I think it is judging another by one's intentions, even if the person doesn't follow those intentions.
Love, Beth

[Leah]

Leah,

I didn't read through all the answers yet, but maybe the person suspects another because he is doing what he thinks the other person is doing????
Looking back here, I also agree with the need to see others doing wrong. I think it is judging another by one's intentions, even if the person doesn't follow those intentions.
Love, Beth

Dear Beth,

It's as if the person perceives the other person's wrong doing because he himself has done the very same!  Past or Present!

Many thanks.

Love, Leah

[BonesMS]

Where does the passive-aggressive narcissist fit in?

Bones

[mudpuppy]

County jail?

mud

[lighter]

Mud wrote:

County Jail?

heh.... I almost missed that one: )