NPD Stories

[Student]

Hello, My name is Danny.
As you can tell, I'm very recently new to this forum. From what I have seen and read, your stories of survival and tough times have been extremely touching. I am in the process of writing an essay on the NPD disorder. Honestly, I have had little experience with NPD and am having trouble truly grasping the complexity and emotional aspects shared by many of the victims (friends and family) of people with NPD. I would not feel right merely writing an essay on the "scientific" POV, as it would lack much of what makes NPD so traumatizing and difficult for people who have to deal with it. There is so much more to it than what "research" tells us. I am left with two choices: I can either attempt to capture what some of you have given me and turn it back into the dull, emotionless garbage I constantly have to sift through when doing my research or take it directly from the source. Please help me out. I feel that your stories would add a substantial importance and different perspective to my essay.

If you have any NPD stories that you would like to share, please do. With that, please give me your consent and permission to reuse your stories in my essay. It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. I would not feel right trying to recapture your stories through my own writing. I would much rather have it told by the people who truly have a book of stories to tell.

[CB123]

Danny,

Thank you for taking an interest in what we have gone through.  Perhaps you could give some more personal info?  Full name, where you go to school, what class you are writing the paper for, will it be published in a journal or elsewhere?

Thanks.

CB

[Ami]

Dear Danny,
  You sound very sweet.I feel a little strange just writing s/thing "right here"-----like a bug under a microscope. I would say to just look at the Members Stories and try to find commonalities.
 The people who have lived with N's are all individuals ,but have many commonalities from trying to "survive" an outlandish environment.
That would be my suggestion-----try to read the stories and pull out the similarities, friend.   N is an interesting topic. A revelation that I am having ( and I am just now seeing this) is that the N is just like any of us when we were at an early stage of development---selfish, jealous, wanting to show off, wanting to be "first", saying,"Look at me" as you see a little kid  doing. However, with non N people, they developed other parts of their personality which allowed for consideration, ability to be "second" or third", empathy, ability to be kind even if you didn't "feel" like it etc. I guess that you could call this the "higher nature". The N's did not develop this ,so you are dealing with a "child' in an adult body.
  You can imagine how it would be when the N HAS a child----sigh.
  Danny, I hope that you find the information that you need and write a great paper.                                           Warmly    Ami

[reallyME]

Danny, feel free to private message me and maybe we can chat on AOL or Yahoo or something and I will tell you my story gladly.

Just click on my name reallyME, and it will let you send me a private message.

WELCOME TO THE BOARD, Danny!

RM

[Leah]

Danny,

I would also thank you for taking an interest in what we have gone through. 

And similarly, respectfully ask if you would please give some more personal information.  Full name, where you go to school, what class you are writing the paper for, and will it be published in a journal or elsewhere, including website(s)?

Please understand that for the purpose of discernment and wise decision making (which includes my new healthy boundaries)
my questions, with respect, I feel, are fair and reasonable, and absolutely necessary.

Thank you.

Leah

[BonesMS]

Welcome to the Board, Danny!

I, too, am interested in knowing more about your educational background before I disclose any personal information.

Thanks!

Bones

[Danny]

Yes, I understand. It would not be right to ask for such personal stories without first disclosing information about myself. As of currently, I am attending a school in the East Side High School Union of San Jose. It's my promise to you that these stories won't be exploited in any way or form. Meaning that they will not appear in journals or elsewhere. With your support, they are meant to aid me in my research of NPD. Ami, I appreciate your input. As you have suggested, I have read several of the NPD stories posted on these boards and attempted to recreate stories with similar "commonalities." However, without the proper experiences, I find it extremely difficult to do so. Anyhow, thank you. As for some information about my purpose in writing this essay. It may seem a bit childish, but my professor went over disorders and NPD seemed to spark an interest inside me. Since then, I have chosen NPD as the topic for my term/semester paper and worth about a third of my grade. I am extremely dedicated towards academics, and strive to do no less than my absolute best. I hope this is enough information to satisfy your questions, and Thank You Again. I greatly appreciate your attitude towards me. I feel very welcomed.

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Danny,

Please e-mail me (or personal message me) with the name and telephone number of your high school , the name of the professor (typically, high schools don’t have professors), and your very specific reason for getting new stories (there are stories already here in the Members’ Stories section that could help you with any paper).   I'm sure you won't mind if I check this out for the general safety of the board. 

Best,

Richard Grossman

[Student]

I would like to stress that no one is under any obligation to share. The stories on these boards are welcome enough and an abundance of information. This thread is only for anyone who has something they wish to contribute. Thank you.
 
- Danny

I appreciate the support.

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi everyone,

For the safety of the board, I'm going to lock this thread.  I cannot verify that information shared with this poster is going to be used for the purposes stated.

Best,

Richard