Do we still have an *I* when we are all alone?

[alone48]

Hi Changing,

Yes, I do want to give up the need to continually please and speak up for myself, but I want to keep my core. That is I still don't want to hurt anyone unnecessarily and be able to get my point across. I am struggling with this since I know you can go to the other extreme. I am a work in progress and thank you for the encouragement. One of these days I will no longer be alone48, but I promise to announce the change rather than start posting as another. LOL

[Bella_French]

Hi Bella,
Have you ever gone the "natural antidepressant" route?
I can suggest SAMe.

I've really noticed a difference.
That plus Dr. Schulz's green stuff that Ami recommended.
Ditto.

And I hear fish oil is antidepressant.

If you did all 3, it might be easy to get off the SSRI.

An SAD light is another non-drug option, and not illusory.
You feel it instantly.

love
Hops

Dear Hops, I had a kind of  revelation, 8 years ago now, that `the problem' was my triggers.

I never aspired to using meds, (or anything else, for that matter), to help me along. But I did a lot of reading and I wondered how it would be, to live without the wrong sort of pain?  Trying out meds showed me that you can't shut down the dysfunctional  triggers, without shutting the good ones down as well. But how awesome it was, to learn that first hand!

I read a lot of good things about SAME. It sounded great, but we only have the homeopathic version here in OZ. Its weak and expensive, and does almost nothing that I can detect. I tried saint Johns Wart too, but I got nightmares, lol. If i lived in the US, I would try DHEA and excercise together. DHEA sounds like something very special, but its illegal here in Australia.

X Bella

[Ami]

Alone, I want to tell you that you are a blessing to me and always have been. You are a soul sister in your search for you core. Our core  is SO precious. I found a little more connection to my core . Even the little bit of connection is so sweet and life  giving.
 I feel like I can be more "real'. I feel more "alive". Iniside  us is beauty, when we are real. The lie is that we are 'ugly " and unworthy.
It is  'shame' telling us these things. It is all lies.
  Thank you for being there,Alone.       Love   Ami

[Ami]

For me, I think the answer is holding on to my "core",first, as if it is my "best friend",before anyone else.            Ami

[reallyME]

Ok Shunned. Thank you for that explanation.  It is very similar to what happened with me, years ago, during the physical abuse situations and abandonment issue from my dad.  It was easier to "watch" it happening to someone else from a distance.

Thanks
~Laura