My Aunt

[Ami]

I  have to say that I feel like Lighter has been launching personal attacks on me from the beginning. Why? I must rub her the wrong way.I am simply trying to heal in the best way that I know how.I DO NOT appreciate her attacks  even though I do not aggressively fight back..
  On several occasions,s/one has come to my defense as my friend Bill has in this case. The last time,it was Sally.Before that,it was s/one else.I can't remember ,now.
  I really do not like to lower myself to get in to a playground brawl with another woman and that is why I don't stand up. However,I DO appreciate when s/one comes to my defense . I appreciate it very,very much .I feel honored that s/one would care enough to stand up for me.         Ami

I agree that Hops is wanting  me to simply let garbage be dumped on me and stay quiet about it---for the record.

[lighter]

Hmmmm... let me see if I have this straight.


AMI advice = priceless wisdom

Advice to Ami = Attack from someone who's threatened by her healing journey, unless the advice resonates with her.

I have one question Ami.  When you ticked Jack off with your sage advice..... did you have evil intentions? 

Were you attacking her? 


Or......were you giving her your gut level honest opinion bc you thought she'd benefit from it?

That wasn't a rhetorical question, btw. 

I'll be looking forward to your response bc the question resonates with me. 

[Ami]

What happened with her(since you're asking,of course) was that you bullied her off the board. She was angry with me b/c I was trying to convince her to come back on when she didn't feel safe.     Ami

[wiltay]

Lighter clearly doesn't like how Ami processes, it obviously 'annoys' her.   From my POV,  I have found Lighter's processing style quite annoying at times, downright irritating even, but I have not personally attacked her for it and I won't.  I usually just stop reading, like Ami says, 'walk on by.'  This time I was SO irritated I didn't. 

Bill

 

[lighter]

What happened with her(since you're asking,of course) was that you bullied her off the board. She was angry with me b/c I was trying to convince her to come back on when she didn't feel safe.     Ami

Ummmm.... Dr. G banned her from the board.... I didn't bully her off. 

She was sending personal messages to CertainHope that were considered No No's.  Nothing to do with me

 

[Ami]

That was the CONCLUSION to the situation that STARTED with you bullying her. I told her to ignore it LIKE  I do, but she was too vulnerable  to do so.

[lighter]

Ami, that response made no sense whatsoever.

I read your post about your disagreement with Jack. 

I read Jack's response to your post.

The disagreement had nothing to do with me, as I recall.

I can't see why you'd be begging her to come back to the board, in any case, after Dr. G banned her.

I suppose that might tick me off too, if you really did that.

[Ami]

Lighter
  You obviously want to obfuscate the issue.
  The events BEGAN with you bullying Jack. They ENDED  with Jac 'losing it"  (having been molested since she was 5. Her ego was not really  strong).
  I tried (behind the scenes)to tell her that she would encounter the "same" type of bullying anywhere in real life and to just "deal" with it. She was angry that I did not TAKE  your bullying more seriously. I  chose simply to ignore it and try to be "friends" with you. She thought that I "sold out" and that was part of her discomfort ,too. So, maybe you should not have started the discussion ,Lighter. I would be happy to end it now,if you care to.

[lighter]

Ummmm.... please don't obfuscate your statement "What happened with her(since you're asking,of course) was that you bullied her off the board. She was angry with me b/c I was trying to convince her to come back on when she didn't feel safe."     Ami

You couldn't have been badgering her to return to the board bc she was banned by Dr. G.   

Not bc she was feeling unsafe. 

Why would you make a statement like that on the board when it's not true?

[wiltay]

   I for one am having a hard time seeing how Lighter's 'sharp tongue' accomplished anything here except create a lot of unnecessary acrimony.  My vote is that Lighter refrain from making personal attacks and we don't need to go here in the first place.  Just my two cents.

Bill

[lighter]

Ami....... I don't think anyone receives responses that always/only make them feel warm and fuzzy. 

If that's all you see me posting.... I've checked my honesty at the sign in screen.

I don't always receive input that flatters me either..... as is the case with Bill's timely response.   

I may not agree with him but I certainly respect his honesty. 

Thank you Bill, duly noted, I hear you. 

 


I don't feel you;ve represented the Jack situation honestly, but hey..... maybe that's truly how you remember it, Ami.

Carrying on like I've been shot, bc I disagree with you, does no one any good so......

I'll provide some examples for my original response to you and hope you take away something of value. 

You may be dependent on drama, to some extent.  You may need to get past that, or not.  Not sure but here are some of your Thread Titles, that raise my radar about such things, as follow:


Is It Really O.K. to Let N Thoughts and Emotions Just Go By--Part 4
Watching the "Layer of Selfishness " Go By
Beat Up, Wrung Out, Exhausted---I Can't believe How Much I Hate Myself
I am Afraid of My Emotions and Afraid of My Thoughts
How Do You Love Yourself When You Think N Feelings and Thoughts?
I am so used to abuse that I don't even see it anymore
Loving Myself------ very "weird"


If I'm wrong... composte away, as you suggest to others on the board.

Makes sense to me.

In the meantime..... I'll continue to post as accurately as I can, which isn't easy, if you want the truth. 


((Shunned,)) sorry the disagreements are so painful for you.  I apologize, for my part.

[Ami]

THIS IS OVER--as far as I am concerned.

[lighter]

No need to shout.....

[wiltay]

No need to shout?  Lighter, you are too much. 

[Gabben]

I'd call my response an honest observation.

Lighter, I'd call your response a load of toxic waste.  Been saving that up, have you?   

ROTFL