What makes me, as a person, sad to see

[Leah]

AVOIDANCE  and   DENIAL


Both my parents did this to me  -  Avoidance and Denial ..... "Let's Change the Subject"

Two siblings did this to me  -  Avoidance and Denial ..... "Let's Change the Subject"

Ex Husband did this to me  - Avoidance and Denial ..... "Let's Change the Subject"


The Above Emporer's had no clothes and went to work; firstly, the silent treatment, and then secondly, moved onto sabotage with "Let's Destroy her Character"


Avoidance and Denial would seem to be crippling all aspects of society today.


Please note:  the following is not N related.


Avoidance - what is it?

In avoidance, we simply find ways of avoiding having to face uncomfortable situations, things or activities.

Avoidance may involve finding ways not to discuss or even think about the topic in question.

Avoidance may be to intensely dislike another person and to avoid the person and don't talk to them, say nothing.

Avoidance is a simple way of coping by not having to cope.  When feelings of discomfort appear, we find ways of not experiencing them.

Procrastination is another form of avoidance where we put off to tomorrow those things that we can avoid today.



Avoidance - So what?

Avoidance is a failure to face up to reality.

To get someone to face what they are avoiding, you may have to corner them or otherwise present them with a situation where they are unable to avoid the situation.  If the discomfort is very strong, they may fight back hard, so be careful.


Denial - What is it?

Denial is simply refusing to acknowledge that an event has occurred.

The person(s) affected or involved (directly or indirectly) simply act as if nothing has happened, behaving in ways that others may see as bizarre.


It may have a significant conscious element, where the sufferer is simply 'turning a blind eye' to an uncomfortable situation.

"Don't want to know"  "Doesn't affect me"   "Not my problem"


Repression - What is it?

Denial is a form of Repression

Repression involves placing uncomfortable thoughts in relatively inaccessible areas of the subconscious mind. 

Thus when things occur that we are unable to cope with now, we push them away, either planning to deal with them at another time or hoping that they will fade away on their own accord.


Denial - So what?

When you appear to deny a situation, when you are in denial, then you may work on gathering others to you in alliance to the denial, in the work of avoidance of any responsibility for the denial.

Simply act as if nothing has happened, behaving in ways that others may see as bizarre.


"Lets Change the Subject"


But, how can any community truly thrive and grow in unity --- under the bizarre shadow of Avoidance and Denial ?



Truly, today as I live and breathe, it makes me, as a human being, a person, sad to * see *

Sincerely yours,

Love, Leah

[Leah]

Truly, today as I live and breathe, it makes me, as a human being, a person, truly sad to * see * what is happening to innocent women and children in the world today ..... their life would seem to have no value .....


Christian women to cover up or face death

On her first day at B--ra University this year a man came up to Z---na, a 21-year-old Christian woman, and three other Christian girls and ordered them to cover their heads with a hijab, or I---mic headscarf.

“We didn't listen to him, and thought he might just be some extremist student representing only himself,” she said.  The next day
Z--na and two of her friends returned to class with uncovered heads.

This time a man in the black clothes of the S--a militia stopped them at the entrance and took them aside. “He said, 'We asked you yesterday to wear a hijab, so why are you and your friends not covering your hair?'. He was talking very aggressively and I was scared,” Z--na recalled.

The girls explained that they were Christians and that their faith did not call for headscarves. “He said: 'Outside this university you are Christian and can do what you want; inside you are not. Next time I want to see you wearing a hijab or I swear to God the three of you will be killed immediately',” Z--na recalled. Terrified, the girls ran home. They now wear the headscarf all the time.

In the past five months more than 40 women have been murdered and their bodies dumped in the street by militiamen, according to the Ba--a police chief. Major-General A---l-J--il K--laf said that some of them had been killed alone, others gunned down with their children. One unveiled mother was murdered together with her children aged 6 and 11.




We have freedom and liberty -- we have so much to be truly thankful for.

With a grateful heart,

Sincerely yours,

Love, Leah

[Overcomer]

Horrible.  Are you talking about up denying these things happen?

[Leah]

Thread Topic Heading:              What makes me, as a person, sad to see


Subject Heading:  Freedom and Liberty - It's a Wonderful Life

We have freedom and liberty -- we have so much to be truly thankful for.

That, truly, today as I live and breathe, it makes me, as a human being, a person, truly sad to * see * what is happening to innocent women and children in the world today ..... their life would seem to have no value.

In the past five months more than 40 women have been murdered and their bodies dumped in the street by militiamen, according to the Ba--a police chief. Major-General A---l-J--il K--laf said that some of them had been killed alone, others gunned down with their children. One unveiled mother was murdered together with her children aged 6 and 11.

That we take so much for granted midst the worldwide suffering.

Love, Leah


PS.  Maybe you can't see all that on your mobile phone?

[Overcomer]

Sometimes I do miss some things on the phone.

[Leah]

Yes, of that I am aware, that things are missed --- it does not all show up on a moble phone.