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The concept of evil
shixie:
Thank you Seeker for your well wishes. I know the longer I have been away from their environment, the stronger I will be. It will be interesting to watch it unfold. My new crusade in life is to work to pass legislation in my state against work bullies, who quite often are N's. I feel a need to do something to protect us from these bastards.
Anastasia:
Narcissists are EVIL? I second and third that mother, sister!!!! No kidding!
So charming, so delightful, so wonderful...while, behind your back, they stab you. Pure evil thru and thru.
I get on this board from time to time and keep saying the same thing over and over: why are some of the board members twisting themselves into a pretzel trying to please the unpleasable? Get away from them physically if you are able to at all. And quit making excuses as to why you cannot: it is your life, your health and heart at stake.
These narcissists will dominate and control your life, try to convince you that they know all the answers only and beat you down when you show any sign of independence.
This is one time in your life you need to RUN...run like the wind...and leave the narcissist behind if you are to develop who you really are at all. These narcissists will totally destroy you all the while professing their great "love" for you (as if they are even capable...ha!). Trust me, I know from first hand experience.
Anonymous:
Hi stacey,
I admire your stand, your conviction, your wanting to make the world, your hospital a better place. It may sound pollyanna, but I like the concept of pollyanna more and more in this world--especially with the ambivalent stats on the true number of N's (bullies) around. We need more of YOU. But set your boundaries. Stay detached. Don't get hooked in. I just finished a great book which articulates how to deal with N's in your life and how to protect yourself : Why is it Always About YOu? by Sandy Hotchkiss. She also gives very specific advice about how to raise our children to be very far away from narcissitc traits. I thinkyou would find this book useful for a variet of reasons. I know you have adorable kids. Let us knopw how we can support you to take it on!!
cplummer (CSHF)
shixie:
AMEN Anastasia! Thanks for your reply, btw Anastasia happens to be my first name.
CSHF, nice to hear from you again. Thanks for you encouraging words. I will look for that book too. I know this site will be valuable in my crusade. :)
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: Anastasia --- why are some of the board members twisting themselves into a pretzel trying to please the unpleasable? Get away from them physically if you are able to at all. And quit making excuses as to why you cannot: it is your life, your health and heart at stake.
These narcissists will dominate and control your life, try to convince you that they know all the answers only and beat you down when you show any sign of independence.
This is one time in your life you need to RUN...run like the wind...and leave the narcissist behind if you are to develop who you really are at all. These narcissists will totally destroy you all the while professing their great "love" for you (as if they are even capable...ha!). Trust me, I know from first hand experience.
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Anastasia - I agree with you! I have done this regarding my N parents and siblings. Now I'm stuck with burning questions...Did I ever have love? Do I even know what love is anymore? Why are they satisfied with a life that doesn't involve me anymore? If my kids were to quit speaking to me or avoid me I would get right in the middle of them and apologize my ass off or try to figure out why they were upset and really listen to them. Why don't the N's do this for me? Is pride their most treasured trait?
I guess I'm still beating my head against the wall wishing my N family would come to their supposed senses.
MrTraced
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