I'm probably quilty of using sarcasm and humor as "jabs." I also think of a good scripture or two sometimes. Mostly when there is a conflict on the board I have to look at the humor in it or I think I would get very upset by it all. Whenever someone raises their voice at me in real life I get a giant pit in my stomach. My h is a yeller and I took it for a long time before I said, "there is the door, now walk through it!!!" This stopped him from yelling as much. I think his mother was a yeller.....
I was thinking about this board and why we have so many flare ups........first, it is the anonimiity which allows you to say whatever you want and then kind of duck. If you were in a room with all these people I doubt the same dynamic would occur. Also, when you go to couples counseling and the discussion gets heated, you usually have a doc there to point out the lunacy in what you are saying. Or to point out dysfunctional thinking. Here - it's a free for all.
I truly try to never get offended. Yes, there has been a time or two when I could read between the lines and hear someone jabbing me. Oh, well, maybe from their perspective what I say is stupid.....I dunno.....
