Author Topic: My inquiry is sincere Pls tell me what life is like without belief in God/heaven  (Read 16344 times)

Hermes

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Will do Lise. 

All the best
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Hello Izzy:

There will be no altercation from me, Izzy.  You can be sure of that.  I am a very fair-minded person, and I also like to be treated fairly.

Best wishes
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Hi Hermes and Bella,
 You are indeed entitled to your opinion and I didn't think I was saying you weren't.
I'm a former agnostic myself and therefore have no problem with your opinion other than I believe it to be wrong, just as you believe mine is.
I am quite content to have people tell me my faith is mistaken or wrong.
I am less content when my beliefs or their basis are less than accurately described.

In this thread have been several assertions, either directly or by implication, which are not accurate and some of which seem kind of demeaning.
  First, Iraneus did not create Christian orthodoxy. He (and many others) over the years were defending the faith against Manicheism, Mithraism and all manner of other gnostic heresies. It is agreed by the large majority of biblical scholars that the gospels and epistles had all been written before the turn of the first century. Since Christians believe that Jesus Christ is God incarnate the record of what he said and did by those who either knew Him or knew those who knew Him is the basis of Christian orthodoxy. Those heresies which deviated from that record, and there were many, were quite correctly labeled as such. It is a modern myth that Christian orthodoxy was arrived at by a group of men sitting around the table at Nicea hundreds of years later. Now there certainly is and always has been debate within Christianity over what many peripheral doctrines should be, but there is almost no debate over the basic and essential doctrines.
  There may be classes in how to pray in a special way available only to that church, I don't know. I've never heard of one but I would be quite surprised if an orthodox Christian church had one. We are taught how to pray in the bible itself and it is expressly open to all believers, so the implication that there is some relationship to the occult in prayer is not only demeaning it is contrary to Christian doctrine. In fact the type of special prayer described is exactly the kind of special knowledge that gnosticism promoted and which Christianity fought and still fights.
 
 
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I personally would like to know the answers to some of them, but until we can find *any* evidence and facts to support answers to our questions, they will remain unknowns.

It is perfectly fine to say one isn't convinced by the evidence or finds the evidence a joke or that it has been corrupted. I don't believe the record bears any of those out, but a person can reasonbly hold those positions. However to imply that people of faith don't have "any" evidence behind their faith seems a little demeaning, for want of a better word.

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Honestly, I can't understand how people can latch on so tightly onto a unsubstantiated belief just because it feels good.

I, and most others I know, don't believe in God because it feels good. The things that my faith require of me very often don't 'feel good' at all. Not proven beyond any doubt and unsubstantiated are two very different positions. Many people find faith unsubstantiated and without reason and yet will trust the latest science as fact. Most astronomers and physicists believed for many years that the universe existed perpetually in a 'steady state'. When Hubble and others demonstrated it was expanding, the big bang (which accords quite nicely with Genesis I might add) was suddenly the new 'orthodoxy'. Nothing has surfaced in 2000 years to dislodge Christianity, so which faith is unsubstantiated?

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I do tend to become very "ticked" by those who are in possession of the "TRUTH", and think everyone else is some kind of heathen.

But that leaves unanswered the question of whether the "TRUTH" does exist. If one is truly agnostic and not atheistic why would one become ticked by those in possession of truth? Isn't agnostic open mindedness open to the possibility of truth? When I was agnostic I recognized that I did not know whether there was a God or whether absolute truth existed. I didn't assume those questions were by definition unanswerable only that I didn't know the answers.

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I just wish to state my own stance,

If you had only stated your stance I would agree, but by implication you (and Bella) were also stating my stance on heresy, orthodoxy, open mindedness, "TRUTH" etc.

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Neither am I a fool.  To you faith may be more reasonable than agnosticism.  Maybe I just think the opposite, to which I am ENTIRELY entitled.

I didn't say you were a fool. I was referring to Pascal's wager, which I found pretty challenging as an agnostic.
You are entirely entitled to your opinion. I'd just like characterizations of mine to be a little more accurate.
It isn't demeaning or insulting to be told one is wrong. It is to charactrize others positions as not only wrong but close minded, without evidence and only held because we are under stress or because it makes us feel good. Nobody here characterized agnosticism in such a manner so why characterize others' faith that way?

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Hello Mudpuppy:

I am not "going there", I am not going to discuss the matter further.  I will not be drawn into religious arguments, because it is a bad idea.  Why?  Because things get misinterpreted.   

However, I did not tell you were "wrong", or anything of the sort.

All the best
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One thing that has really helped me here, consistently, is to notice whether newcomers choose to share their own personal FOO or marital story. (I don't mean a tome, but a full post that gives us an idea that they are a distinct individual with a specific life story they're willing to share a glimpse of.)

I have just noticed that I feel much more comfortable having dialogue with someone who has made it obvious that they are not just a "voice", dispensing "information". But another person, woman or man, just like me, who is struggling with the particulars of a personal life.

(I don't mean identifying particulars, of course, but particulars that share with us something real about who they are.)

If that personal life is missing, and there is no reciprocal sharing of life offered, I tend to hold back.

The Net is awash with articles, bits of mental health info, lots of professionally written opinion and advice. What is unique here, for me anyway, is the clear feeling of individual personalities. Someone is offering themselves to be known.

When they are not, I am less likely to want to dialogue. (Doesn't necessarily mean anything's wrong with new posters who do not share about their own voicelessness stories/anecdotes/issues. It's just a boundary I place in my own mind around where I like to place my trust.)

It's not something anyone can enforce in this kind of format.

I'm just pointing out that we each, individually, can choose where we set a protective boundary around our own experience. I think sometimes we forget that we are allowed that decision. It's a natural decision that might come more easily to people who were not raised either with neglect (which causes us to surge past our own boundaries in hunger) or abuse (in which our boundaries were violated so often that we forget we do have or can place them).

love,
Hops (posting as guest since I timed out and sometimes lose a post if I try to cut and paste, dunno why...)

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 Hermes,

  I am not advancing arguments on behalf of the idea that God exists, nor are you advancing arguments that he doesn't or that we cannot know whether he does. I don't consider it a religious argument, I consider it a matter of decorum.
  I am stating that while no one that I saw was disrespectful to your position either directly or by implication, (the entire original point of the thread seemed to be an attempt to respectfully elicit the agnostic view) you were disrespectful, by implication and I assume inadvertantly, to others' positions.
  If I stated that I get really ticked off when people tell me there is no "TRUTH" or that I don't really believe in that agnosticism stuff because I'm so open minded or that while agnosticism is a load of bunk I do recognize that it provides psychological solace to those under stress who are driven to such beliefs because their mind is so overwhelmed I imagine you would be rather insulted. If not, you should be.
  

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I'm not sure I made much sense, there.

I think what is a flag for me that I was trying to describe is reciprocal vulnerability.
Not 50-50, that's silly. But at least a sense that the person brings some openness and humility to the experience of sharing here.

(I don't mean indiscreet spilling = openness or that humilty = groveling or protestations of humbleness.)

I just mean, if someone comes here and begins to post information but I detect no emotional "presentness" (iow, vulnerability), then I will be more careful. And it's a real life, a real situation, that allows me to identify or respond to someone from the heart, as well as the encyclopedia-head.

Jeez, hope that made sense....(not too sure)...

xo
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Any chance at all that you could let this rest, Mud?  You have not read what I posted, there was no disrespect on my part.  I stated my reply to the heading on the thread and quoted a writer (from times past). 

Also, I mentioned in this, or perhaps on another thread, that people often do find religion to be a psychological help in times of trouble.  Any help is good help to people in need.

However, what I will NOT allow is you, or anyone else here, to adopt that SCOLDING tone with me. 
You have picked the wrong person, Mud.  So, please do not even think of going there where I am concerned.  I hope I make myself totally clear.

All the best
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For the record, this is what I said in my first reply to this thread:

"""Hello Laura:

Most times I don't analyze the matter much either.  I am not a religious person, but I hope I have some spirituality.  It is not a question of belief, IMO.  I just don't know.  I am not saying there is or there isn't something "out there".  I simply do not know.  I am, I suppose, an agnostic.  I question.  My father used to sometimes say, half in jest: "well, no one has come back to tell us what it is like". 

I do believe that one must try to do good to others, not to do harm.  I also realise that religion is a great psychological help to many people in despair, and any help in those situations is good help.  I believe in tolerance.  I dislike preaching and preachers. 

Like Hops I quite like being in the vast space of not knowing.  Life is a mystery, and I also feel that sense of mystery.  I agree with Hops in that there is a holiness in beauty, in nature, and in kindness.   It feels peaceful.  Yes.

All the best
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It feels peaceful.

Thanks for asking. Being agnostic means that I don't believe there is no God, or that there is a God. It means, in my case, "I don't know, but I remain open."

I do believe that there is holiness in beauty and in loving kindness.



 Well said, Hops.

Laura, I usually don't talk much about this, but since you asked an earnest question, it deserves an honest answer.

I used to be a very religious person. When I moved to be near my brother, I joined his church, which has since gone postal. During the 4 years I was a member there, I took every opportunity to participate - study groups, prayer groups, services, counseling, etc.

Since then I have "fired" God. Any characterization of him as a "loving father" goes against the testimony of every moment of my life. A loving father does not let children suffer; a loving father does not allow innocent women to be battered by their spouses; a loving father does not allow families to go homeless.

I'm trying to make this short but maybe failing miserably.

Since that time, I have come to believe in some kind of cosmic force, a spirit like the one Hops described above, available to those who tune in to it. I believe the Gospel of Mary Magdalene which says Jesus' true teachings centered around getting us to see that the "Kingdom of god" is within us, not "up there". If there is a God, he/it is most active from one person to another, when we act in a way that brings out the best in others.

I have done extensive reading of and about the so-called "gnostic gospels" - Philip, Thomas, and Mary M. I have read deeply about how Christianity got started, Emperor Constantine's role in it, the male bishops' belief that women should be banned from any active role, the guidelines which the Council of Nicea used to determine which gospels would be kept for the Bible and which would be discarded, their attempt to draw peoples from "primitive" religions, eons old, which were goddess-centered, into Christianity by elevating Mary, mother of Jesus, to sainthood. I could go on and on.

But when I read the gospel of Mary M., it simply clicked with me, it made sense, and my deepest heart felt it was the truth. I guess I, too am now gnostic, but unlike Hops, I take the meaning as "needing no one - priest or soothsayer - to intercede for me" with God. If there is a God, my rel'ship with him or it is personal - I don't want or need any egos translating for me or telling me what god means when he says this or that.

My life fell apart during the time I was with that church. I had been raised in the Episcopal church, so was no stranger. I now am more comfortable with the idea of an "administrative" higher power, one who does not get involved in the day-to-day life of believers. It's a lot more peaceful than the heartbreak and constant disappointment of expecting a "loving father" figure to come to my aid or bring me peace. I do not know if god was responsible for the desperate times I went thru back then and the lingering effects of them currently. I have my theories, but not for this forum. I just know it is easier for me to deal with the heartaches alone than with those plus the constant disappointments and pain of belief.

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Hi Hops,

I understand every word of your #43 & #44.

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For the record, this is what I said in my first reply to this thread:

I didn't reference this post, as nothing in it is offensive.

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You have not read what I posted, there was no disrespect on my part.

I did read it. That's how I was able to quote it. There may have been no disrespect intended; that's why I said it was probably inadvertant. That doesn't mean it isn't there.

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I hope I make myself totally clear.

Perfectly. Rather than address my legitimate and respectful points that your statements are implicitly offensive you claim I'm scolding you.

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Any chance at all that you could let this rest, Mud?


Absolutely. Since your response is to ignore what I said and instead quote your first post which I didn't even refer to what's the point of trying?

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I loved the question the way Laura asked it.
I am sure she would have been delighted if I'd answered: I believe exactly what you believe.
And yet, Laura being Laura, she is loving and respectful of me even though I believe something so very different from what she, as a Word of Faith Christian, believes and experiences.

That's one thing I've really loved about the board.

Our mingling. Our respect.

Sometimes we bang into each other or bang into others' bruises, but I think love and respect usually win, whatever Source or source they're ascribed to.

And that's really neat.

xo
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I loved the question the way Laura asked it.
I am sure she would have been delighted if I'd answered: I believe exactly what you believe.
And yet, Laura being Laura, she is loving and respectful of me even though I believe something so very different from what she, as a Word of Faith Christian, believes and experiences.

That's one thing I've really loved about the board.

Our mingling. Our respect.

Sometimes we bang into each other or bang into others' bruises, but I think love and respect usually win, whatever Source or source they're ascribed to.

And that's really neat.

xo
Hops


Amen.

((((((((((Hops))))))))))

With love,
Carolyn

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I went to listen to the Baha'i faith recently and they believe no religion is better than 'bad religion'.

I think it is important to cultivate a faith which sustains us in times of pain and many of the elitist ideas I have heard in Christian churches make people feel blessed and rewarded when things are going well and forsaken and punished when they are not; that is the legacy of parts of the old testament taken out of the context of the Jewish tradition of lamentation and consolation rhetoric.

Jesus shared with us his personal vision of G_d as father- of course he had the noble Joseph as his father figure here- I am not sure he intended us to all see G_d the same way, and the prayer in which he reveals his manner of prayer has become quite a 'repititious chant' in many churches; we say it faster than I can speak at one church, in fact I just pray silently now!

I don't like rituals much- one pastor told me that they help people who don't find it easy to be creative or who need a given structure to their worship, but it seems to me they always get taken out of context over time and become something they weren't meant to be or lose the original symbolism.

I don't believe in a lot of the traditional Christian teachings but I do follow Jesus' basic teachings as my own faith and that seems to work fine for me.

~W