Dear towrite,
Thanks for explaining the situation. My intuitive feeling is that she feels embarrassed (she may not even know it) b/c she was so "needy."
It is hard to change roles in relationships and still sustain the relationship.
The key ingredient to maintaining a relationship(IME)is the ability to be able to communicate, honestly . With Maria, I always joke that we should be husband and wife b/c we have been through many stages together - We, always could have a heart to heart talk. After that,we were closer. She can take honesty without getting defensive .. I can take honesty in the same way.
Without the ability to communicate ,the relationship is not worth much(IMO) . It is probably better to simply let it go. I am sorry, towrite. She sounds like she "was" a good friend ,up to this point. It must be really hard for you right now. Love Ami
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