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Re: PM event
« Reply #15 on: January 03, 2008, 01:52:49 PM »
Hi Hops,

I am so sad  :( to hear this has happened. I am so proud of you for using your beautiful voice, out in the open, safe, you are safe here hops.
I also was tormented behind the scenes so I understand how triggered you must of felt. You are stronger now, you are able to take care of you! A shining example today.

I am always learning from you, thank you for being you a gift to us all.

With love and comfort, (((seasons)))
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« Reply #16 on: January 03, 2008, 02:00:33 PM »
hi Hops

I am sorry this has happened to you.

You of all people.

There is no need for that on this board , and by your mentioning it, we can all beware the PMr, likely with PMS, or might it be jealousy because of your previous post about your mother's will?

Yes, likely that

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Re: PM event
« Reply #17 on: January 03, 2008, 02:07:01 PM »
Thanks, Izz...no, I don't know the motive
but it's okay. Nothing to do with my mother.

I don't want to malign the person or vilify them.

It's okay.

love
Hops
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Re: PM event
« Reply #18 on: January 03, 2008, 06:48:59 PM »
Hops,

Sorry you had this experience.  It presses a button for me about forgiveness, I think I may start a thread about this and would welcome your input.

xxxxxx

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« Reply #19 on: January 03, 2008, 07:26:13 PM »
(((((((Hops))))))) 

Trolls, eh? That's what the folks in Michigan's Upper Peninsula used to call us lower peninsulans... cuz us'ns lived under da bridge.

For the record, I couldn't care less if we have trolls... Lord knows we have enough problems with or without them.

Also, for the record, I am thankful for you, Hops - that you don't participate in backstage gossip and shenanigans... that you're just the same behind the scenes as you are out in front - tried and true, a loyal friend.

And I love you.

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Re: PM event
« Reply #20 on: January 03, 2008, 08:12:41 PM »
Dear Hops,

I am sensitive to criticism and personal attacks too, so I can imagine what you must be feeling. Its sounds like the motives were not to lift you up through constructive criticism, but to pressure you into something......agreeing with a point of view perhaps? I personally have no time for that kind of  behavior...I find it a bit `low'.  I'd rather someone just accept if I have a differing opinion. I can certainly see why you didn't want to keep engaging with someone when they treated you that way. No offense to the person involved though- I mean only to comment on the behavior itself (which is correctable).

Also, I wanted to say I think you handled this emotional trigger very well. It can be easy to over-react, lash out, or punish, when we are in pain, but it helps t understand that the past is the greater force behind the feeling (rather than what someone actually said or did in the present).

Bravo, Hops.

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Re: PM event
« Reply #21 on: January 03, 2008, 08:37:55 PM »
Thanks, Axa (that'll be a great thread)
Love you back, Miz (((Carolyn)))
And Bella, I feel better. Not twanging any more.

I am feeling badly for the other person.
But better myself.
We were probably both feeling attacked by ghosts.

Once hurt is shared and compassion rises,
who could still feel badly?

love,
Hops
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« Reply #22 on: January 03, 2008, 10:05:19 PM »
That's a confession?
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Re: PM event
« Reply #23 on: January 03, 2008, 10:24:48 PM »
I want to know what a troll is.
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« Reply #24 on: January 03, 2008, 10:35:42 PM »
A troll is a person on an internet board,such as this, that  tries to get people to fight with with each other, Kelly. It is a "fighting" type of person who tries to cause trouble and brings other members in to the fight.
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« Reply #25 on: January 03, 2008, 10:41:51 PM »
Knowing Bean the way that I do, she would never ,intentionally harrass  or abuse anyone. She deals with situations with the utmost respect and civility. I have to give my opinion, as I see it.         Ami
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« Reply #26 on: January 03, 2008, 10:49:11 PM »
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I have to give my opinion, as I see it.


Actually a great many of us didn't give our opinion, so strictly speaking you didn't have to, you chose to.

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Re: PM event
« Reply #27 on: January 03, 2008, 10:52:15 PM »
In real life (?), trolls are mean, hobbit-eating creatures.  but you can always kill them by tricking them into standing in the sunlight, because trolls don't like the light.  Hmmmm.

So......it turns out that trolls, no matter where they are, are handled the same way?  With a beam of light shining in the darkness? 

I like it.

CB
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Re: PM event
« Reply #28 on: January 03, 2008, 10:57:32 PM »
Quote from: Hopalong on January 03, 2008, 01:35:22 PM
It's okay...I've done my share of projecting in my time.

I don't want to vilify the person at all. I may remind her of someone.
Or real parts of me upset real parts of her...

I am no saint either. We all do stuff.

It's okay, and thank you all for the comfort.

love,
Hops

Calling this post back up in case anyone missed it.


P.S.  I love you, too, Bean... even though you're not a saint.

Carolyn
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Re: PM event
« Reply #29 on: January 03, 2008, 11:24:29 PM »
Thank you, Carolyn.
That's where I'd like to leave it, if people will.

love to all, including Bean,

Hops
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