Growing boundaries

[axa]

Hi,

I have posted here a lot over the past year about having poor boundaries and not standing up for myself.  Today I was helping my neighbour, who is a nice person, with a chore.  She had told me she was feeling anxious and had had a disagreement with a friend.  As I was helping her I found her a bit snappy and thought OK Axa here is your opportunity to have a voice.  I told her I felt she was being angry towards me and I was there to help her and if she continued I would leave and let her get on with the chore herself.  With this she apologised and meant it......... I know she was distracted but I was very glad I stood up for myself in an assertive way without any anger on my part.... big deal for me.  When I was leaving she said "I really admire how clear you are and how you are so able to be straight with me" .............well guys you could have seen me virtually cartwheeling down the street.  I am learning that practise does make it easier.  Each opportunity to use my voice makes it easier the next time.  People who are respectful will hear what I am saying and I feel a hell of a lot better than when I would carry my annoyance home and feast on it for the evening.

This is not a Oh you are so wonderful Axa post, it is another part of me acknowledging my voice amongst people who understand that this is difficult and it helps reinforce my adult behaviour.

Thanks for listening

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Axa

[Izzy_*now*]

Good going, axa

You did that nicely, and I'm about at the same spot in life, still practicing and hoping I get it right.

Saying it and not losing a friend/acquaintance.

xx
Izzy

[Certain Hope]

Dear Axa,

Oh, boy, do I ever know how difficult and scary that can be. You did grrrrreat! I can just picture you doin those cartwheels down the street     I've been practicing, too... with coworkers and friends... and sometimes I blow it pretty badly, but other times I get enough positive feedback to know that I'm on the right track and will keep practicing.

Congratulations on your consistent steps into good health and mature relationships!!

With love,
Carolyn

[lighter]

::Doing cartweel::

Ow.

[Hopalong]

But but but

oh
you
ARE
so
wonderful
((((((((((Axa))))))))))))

 
feeling joy for you!
understanding why this is    big!   

love
Hops

[Bella_French]

Dear Axa, That was SO well done! And what a nice response from her too!

Congratulations:)

X Bella

[axa]

Did not post this thread in order to receive affirmations but boy they do feel sooooooooooooo good.
xxxxxxxxxxx

Axa

[Leah]

Dear Axa,

Thanks so much for sharing, as it is so uplifting. "well done you"

How wonderful that you can feel the fruits of your labour which surely gives you much encouragement.

All the very best to you.

Love, Leah