Re: Lollie's story

[leslieguitar]

Hi Lollie. This is the first thing I read on this site. I am 60 and not comfortable with this posting and stuff. However, I relate to you as my Dad was Bipolar - it used to be called manic depression. He was a nice guy though. My mother - I have only just discovered the label - was narcissistic. I am still reeling from the shock of finding that instead of me being wrong all my life, I am actually OK and my mother was crazy. She was a doctor with doctor friends, and this never would have been admitted at the time. I live in Scotland and am looking for other adults who've had this kind of experience. I want to get stronger. I married a narcissist who stalked me when I left and tried to kidnap our daughter. He set fire to the house we were sleeping in. My daughter has reconciled with her father, and I think rather despises me. The next relationship I had was with a controlling person - possibly Borderline personality disorder, another label I'd never heard of. At last I am finding my voice so thank you for telling your story.

[Hopalong]

Welcome, Leslie.
Good for you for pushing past your comfort zone to learn to participate!

I can completely relate to the shock of discovering what Nism is, and how all the ripples shoot out throughout your life and you realize nearly exactly how your mother's mind/personality worked. And how you ARE OKAY (and were all along). The shock really is massive. But I think it's like massive life-saving surgery.

I'm very sorry for what you have lived through (setting the house on fire?  ) and I hope that as she matures, your daughter will learn that you are human, and have some understanding of wht you were living through. There is time.

Meanwhile, good that you're here. Talk and type all you like, start a thread of your own...take up some space, it's okay!

best,
Hopalong

[Certain Hope]

Dear Leslie,

Welcome to the group... I'm glad you're here and hope that you'll continue posting and sharing whatever feels right.

Love to you,

Carolyn

[Leah]

Dear Leslie,

Warm Welcome to you.

So glad you have joined with us and posted here

and do so hope that you will feel comfortable to share, as led, with what feels right, for you.

Love, Leah

[Ami]

Dear Leslie,
  I can relate,only too well. Like you, I was  fine,  the  whole time. It was my M who was the "crazy" one. What a toll it  takes on us. It almost killed me. I am still not "all there".,but I am trying to climb out, little by little.
  My M is a therapist, so she seemed like she had to be the "normal" one. Who was *I* to trust myself, when she was telling me that *I* was "bad"?
  It is a long climb out. I have just faced that my M is an N.  It  took a year and a half.
  Now, I have to rebuild my shattered self.
 Keep writing. I think that you are in the right place, Leslie. We will understand ,here.      Love    Ami

((((((((Leslie)))))))))))))

[lighter]

Welcome Leslie: )