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social fatigue
Anonymous:
Stop worrying about it and accept you just don't like entertaining. It's just not you. and that's OK.
That's what I do, and I avoid those situations if I can, and manage to get through them if I can't.
It really is OK to be who you are
best wishes
Jessie
les:
It really is ok to be who you are.
Words to live by. I know I am just beginning to get comfortable with the idea.
Thank you Jessie. I think we all need to be reminded of this simple yet profound truth - for me, every day, every hour maybe.
Les
Anonymous:
Hi all,
Jessie, I think you have a very good point. There is nothing wrong with being a home body vs. a social butterfly. I Absolutely agree with that as long as it is what you want and not what you have been led to believe you deserve.
I don't know how to say this so I can only give an example: I am a golfer, (well, lol, sorta) and one time I was on an outing with several people. I walk up to the tee, swing, now mind you the hole was to my left, my ball went so far right that It could have perhaps been considered my left. Not a pretty sight and I mean it when I say I about knocked over 55 people with that damn thing. LOL!! I believe it was a par 4, it took me 20 shots to get it out of the trees, over the creek, up the hill, yada yada. There were a couple of die hard rich ping club carrying doctors on that outing with me and I could have just crawled through all 20 shots by the time they were done with their better then though comments.
There has never been a Tee that I walk up to that I do not think of THE TEE!! I start sweating, heart starts pounding, flashbacks of the comments they made and by golly ya know what, I have avoided golf as much as I can since that time. I am an above average female golfer so summin it up I just had a chit shot. Oh Ya, forgot to mention the cold drinks that we were drinking, Im sure that didnt help my aim when the entire green was spinning to and fro!!!! :wink:
I try to avoid golf because I never want to feel the way I did at that moment ever ever ever again.
If people have had a bad experience in a social setting, perhaps this might be why they are avoiding it.
If they chose to stay home because they would rather have a kicked back night, then more power to them.
Jaded:
That golfer up yonder, it was me. I have no clue how I get logged off at times.
write:
I liked the idea of a friend who wrote barbecue 5-8 pm on her invitations, it's something I'll use in the future.
For me its the lack of being in control of when people will leave sometimes gets me anxious, especially if its not people I want to spend a lot of time with.
Or you could take people out somewhere, socialise away from home, so you can leave when you've had enough.
Or you could just smile and accept that you don't want people over and reciprocate in other ways, a gift or thoughtful gesture.
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