Hello to all:
I have read many times that not all abusers have NPD, but all NPDs are abusers. And so it would seem.
The jerk is another matter. The jerk is "on view" fairly quickly, his "jerkness" is soon manifest (unlike the NPD who operates in a different mode).
Ditch That Jerk
Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women
by Pamela Jayne M.A.
""Neither weighed down with research nor weightless with airy promises, Ditch That Jerk is a gritty, honest, and most of all experienced view of abusers and the effect they have on the women they victimize. Author Pamela Jayne includes examples to show how the minds of abusive men work, exposes the tricks and excuses they use to keep women in line, and even includes jerk tests to help you decide if you should walk. Forthright and empowering without candy-coating a difficult topic, this book gives women the tools to make potentially lifesaving decisions.""
Pamela Jayne, M.A., is a lecturer, trainer and author who has worked with both victims and perpetrators of abuse over the last 15 years
