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Michelle

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« on: June 30, 2004, 11:01:32 PM »
Lissie Lou,

Just checking to see how you are.  You said you had school counseling starting a little over a week ago.  Just wanted to see if you felt like sharing how that was going for you.

Hope you are well.  Your in my thoughts and prayers.

Love, Michelle
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« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2004, 09:54:21 AM »
Well I'm sorry I didn't reply earlier Michelle - I've been so busy studying and getting on with things!

Wel I must admit the outcome of that was a little strange. I had one session with my school counsellor, very bluntly asked her how much did she know about this personality disorder and how could she help me. She admitted she knew very little and so she gave me a name of a counsellor in my area. But it didn't work out very well because there is no way I can afford counselling sessions because I don't work and I can't go without Mum finding out! I don't plan on lying where I am for a few hours to her... So yeah that wasn't the best option.

This school counsellor also told me that there was another school mother who had a husband with the same disorder and that she would get in contact with her and perhaps we could have a meeting together and sort of share our experiences.

Well, that was almost 6 weeks ago. I was on holidays for 3 weeks and now I've been back at school for 2 weeks. She hasn't contacted me, although she has seen me around the school I'm sure, she hasn't asked me how I'm going or coping with exams and frankly, she has been quite unhelpful!

But I was starting to think that maybe that was God telling me to rely on Him more and that I didn't need this counsellor! I've been able to tell my two closest friends the situation...and although it was very hard and painful to open up, they were very understanding and supportive. So that has been a world of help and I'm feeling quite...content!

We had a bit of a scare two days ago - when Dad was called up by management for another meeting at his work and we thought that maybe he was going to lose his job. He's been in a bit of trouble at work lately because he keeps complaining about other workers in the company, saying that they're not doing their job properly etc. Mum was  really annoyed with Dad, basically pleading for him to just keep quiet and put his head down and work and be content with the fact that he's getting paid and that's what matters! Dad is insisting that he's going to quiet his job - which would instantly mean Mum and I probably living in an appartment whilst Dad goes back to Western Australia and lives there....

But yes - God put His hand over the situation and Dad didn't lose his job! Let's just hope that nothing happens in the next few months! I'm learning to see things from new perspectives - that I should be as optimistic as possible, willing to learn from all circumstances and embrace all opportunities for me to grow as a person and develop character and perseverence. It's quite a blessing really for me to be going through these hardships because I know I will be blessed for it and come out the other end as a much stronger person in Him!

Thanks for your care Michelle,

Talk soon!

xoxo

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« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2004, 10:02:58 AM »
Sorry - it must not have worked when I first logged in! That was me posting above ;)

Luv Lissa xoxo

Michelle

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« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2004, 10:57:32 PM »
Hi Lissie Lou -

It is very good to hear from you!  I'm sorry that the school counselor thing didn't go as well as we had all hoped.  She doesn't sound very helpful at all.   :x   I'm very glad that you have a few close friends to share this burden with.  That must at least provide you with a little relief.  

It sounds as if God has truly been faithful to you and I am so thankful for that.  You have a true gift of seeing things in a positive light.  That is a wonderful gift to have, just please don't let it overpower your intuition.  There is a fine line there I think.  It is important for you to keep your intuition and realize that things with your dad are not normal.  I hope that eventually your parents can get help for themselves, but right now I am most concerned about you.  You are important and deserve to have what is left of your youth.   :!:

Do you have access to a public library and the internet?  If so, and you feel ok about it, I think it would be a great idea to check out some books about narcissism and how to at least cope with living with them - since you don't have a choice right now.  Also, a few books on codependence would probably prove enlightening for you.  Just suggestions.

Praying for you and sending you lots of encouragement and hugs.  Let us all know how you are on occasion!

Love, Michelle
Healing one day at a time.....