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Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« on: January 27, 2008, 01:00:22 PM »
Woke up late - didn't want to get up.  Stayed in bed too late to go to church.  Walked the dogs.  While walking I thought of "Whack a Mole" and how life is like that game.  I try to hit all the moles and WIN but really the object is to hit as many moles as possible and get a big score.  I want to defeat the moles and kill them forever but they keep coming back and so it is I who is defeated.  If I just try to get a big score then it doesn't matter that they keep coming back.

That is what facing these difficulties is like.  I try to defeat them all but really if I would just give myself a big score for the ones i whack then I would be kinder to myself.

confidence and determination  - I was thinking about that as I walked and realized that confidence and determination get eroded because I have moles to whack and can't get them all.  It is a REAL block to confidence and determination.

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Re: Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2008, 01:51:05 PM »
Glad you put this here, GS...wasn't sure if you wanted comment on the other thread or to have it as more of a jouranling space.

I wanted to say:

How about enjoying each mole whack?

Feeling the strength in your arms as you raise the sledgehammer, noticing the fresh air on your cheek, noticing the way the air displaced by the hammer as you lower it even creates a little breeze, and uttering a happy GRUNT! with effort each time you feel that satisfying Whack!, and that particular mole sits down hard with a headache...

Maybe staying in the present with each task and examing the sensory reality of the task as you do it, would help?
Sure, there The List. But you can make checking off each thing a separate experience. All on its own. Not ruminting on how long the list is, so much as enjoying that rhythm of whack, check off, whack, check off.

Building a slow rhythm to that activity that advances you toward your goals like the tide coming in.

(Hope that isn't all too indulgent on my part...)

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Re: Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« Reply #2 on: January 27, 2008, 05:39:12 PM »
Yeah - that's IT, Hops.  Thanks for your thoughts.  That is definitely a way to get beyond the internalized criticism that I lived with.  For a few weeks I have been remembering that if I did something well then every past mistake was brought up as penance.  Nothing was ever forgotten.  Each and every success became an occassion to be the whipping boy.  I suspect it has cost me in many, many ways - fearing success.

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Re: Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« Reply #3 on: January 27, 2008, 07:02:07 PM »


(((((((( Mole )))))))))

Rescued a baby mole with a sieve and a bucket,
it looked all velvety and so sweet.

'wind in the willows' fan too!   :)

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Re: Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2008, 07:16:25 PM »
Now Leah, I was just hitting my stride in whacking each mole individually when you come along and make me feel guilty for qhacking the silly slight little things, and being another "Wind in the Willows" fan, well, I just feel like a heel thinking about (and enjoying those thoughts) of whacking those poor, blind, defenseless things.

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Re: Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« Reply #5 on: January 27, 2008, 07:32:23 PM »


 :)  mind you, they do wreck peoples lawns!  Goodness knows what my little Moley got up to.  Glad to know a fellow "Wind in the Willows" fan. 

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Re: Whack a Mole - a model for my life
« Reply #6 on: January 27, 2008, 07:38:55 PM »
Dear GS,
  I fear success ,too. With failure, you KNOW what you are going to get :old familiar depression and guilt. With success, we  are afraid  to get beaten down for "daring" to be "good". That is how I see it. It may not be the same for you, GS.
Success is a lot scarier than faliure and a lot more familiar--bleh.    Love   Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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