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Coming face to face with my NMother

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mighty mouse:
Michelle,

You are becoming one righteous woman. You go, girl.

MM

Learning:
Hi Michelle,

I had wondered what would make your m pick up the phone that day.  I'm sorry that your sil can't understand your point of view.  I agree that pregnancy could be part of it, but other than that, could she just be naive?  I don't know, I think it's ok to be naive but why wouldn't she still respect you and the boundaries you have requested with your m.  I agree with your decision to be wary of her in the future and I think you handled it famously!


--- Quote ---Don't you hate that choking feeling when you realized it was him!!!!! I hate that feeling. So out of control. You said that you talked to him "oh so tersely". I was confused about what that meant - I am assuming that it meant you spoke with him but didn't give in to his games or say the script that he wanted to hear?
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Yes, you are right.  I tried to keep my responses as short as possible and not give him anything to criticize or gossip about.  It is a choking feeling...a feeling like CJ said recently of stuffing as well.  Just stuffing all my emotions to the pit of my stomach.  If I would have just said what I had felt...that I didn't want to talk to him, I think I would have felt better.  And the worst part, of course, is now he thinks he's in again.  So now the phone messages are coming from him and my m.  They really want to see their grandchildren...before summer is over.   AARGH, they really know how to hit the guilt button.  I am ignoring them though.

Michelle, I'm so sad for you about what happened to you as a child.  I am proud of you regarding how you handled the situation on the newbie thread.  I really hope you will still find this board to be of help to you.  I always look forward to your posts. :)

Love,
Learning

Learning:
P.S.  Bunny...sorry that I hijacked your word :oops: .  I knew I had heard it somewhere before after I wrote it but it just didn't connect from where.  I think maybe I am taking your words in a bit too much.  Sorry...again...perhaps that is another symptom of my own voicelessness.

Anonymous:
Learning,

You flatter me by using the same word! No apologies necessary!  :lol:

bunny

Anonymous:
Hi Michelle,

Wow, the conversation you had to set boundaries with your SIL is great!  I"m going to remember that for when friends start in on me about MY SIL.

Some people are drawn to drama.  I hope your SIL is not one of them.  Maybe your brother will set her straight...he "gets" it, right?  Anyway, good for you for straightforwardly saying thanks but no thanks to meddling.  Hopefully she won't try it again--it didn't work so well for her this time did it?  

Hugs, Seeker

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